Question 4 girlz?
I've known this girl for 2 yrs and i've liked her 4awhile now and I know she likes me becuz...
- she would stay up late to talk to me even if we argued
- she said she missed me during the summer
- she emails me & IM's me a lot
-she actually asked me whether i'd consider her to be my g/f
Oh wait... She chose her cheating-doesnt go to school or have a job, jerk b/f over me...a girl whom I confided with , was there for her through thick & thin...& I can't believe shes going back to her ex...why do girls do this! I don't care if im "Just friends" with her but the fact that she lead me on and did this speaks alot of how her character is..if anything I said she can do better with other guys that she has more potential in herself to succeed at anything & yet she doesn't listen
i kinda told her to have a nice life and take this fabricated illusion she calls a friendship & shove it
2007-11-17 16:02:06 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did I do the right thing? and do u think she would apologize in the future or try contacting me?
2007-11-17 16:03:07 · update #1
Some women are incapable of choosing the nice guy. There really are some girls who will always go back to their on again/off again cheating boyfriend because they don't know how to break the cycle and seek comfort in the familiar. She may also believe that she can "fix" him; this gives her a sense of empowerment.
Unfortunately, this is the same type of girl that likes to keep male friends on the back burner because it makes her feel good to know that she's wanted or needed. Be honest with her about how you feel, and if you really want to let her back in your life, do it on your terms instead of hers.
2007-11-17 16:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though she felt 'safe' with you because she didn't consider you a potential love interest. Women will gravitate towards the 'jerk' because they are dangerous, exciting and a great outlet for the physical part of the relationship. However, they will lean on their guy 'friends' to carry on the emotional side. So what happens is that the woman will have a whole relationship with 2 men, with one getting all of the physical satisfaction and the other one getting all of the emotional baggage. This works out great for the woman and the jerk, but not the friend.
I think you did the right thing, but may have gone a little over the top. I probably would apologize, but explain how you really feel and that it isn't fair to you to continue to enable her dead-end relationships.
Will you end up with her in the end? Probably not. But at least you will have managed to salvage a little self-respect.
2007-11-17 16:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Billy Shat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!
I'm a gurl' & believe it or not..it seems like you're describing ME! I had to scroll back up to re-read, but it's not me, because my guy & I didn't talk online.
Okay, you seem like you have ya' head on straight...like the guy I chose over my ex (who I'd hate to admit that he's not on the right path). Difference here is...I actually cheated on the ex..for this "good" guy.
If she REALLY chooses him, & he was a cheater...
then it's her lost! (only cause he was a cheater, and going back to pain...is a dumb choice). Even though I messed up with the ex (for a damn good cause) I feel bad & sometimes think about us...because he did make me feel good (physically...if u' know what I mean)
but I moved on for me, and because I really wanted more (in which he didn't).
Some people don't want much! BUT! Just because she's making a dumb choice, doesn't give you the right to say forget it...and I know you didn't mean it, so...
apologize, but don't kiss her *** (there's a difference). And' tell her you're tired of always aplogizing (cause I bet you're always the one to do it).
There's hope, but honestly, there's none with her stupidity (for choosing a low-life)
2007-11-17 16:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by Xoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are very emotional. I don't know why... I'm one and I still don't get it. Anyways, its really annoying. She is either trying to make you jealous, or is being a total girl and doesn't know it. Some girls have commitment issues. They think they need a guy, so they go to the worst guy possible, even if they hate it. They won't leave them unless the guy dumps them. Its kind of pitiful. Good luck, but I would move on. You sound like a great guy, with a girl not worthy of you.
2007-11-17 16:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. She was going through a bad time in her relationship or maybe her bf was cheating on her. So she tried to get assured that she was desirable and that is why she asked you that question. She is a pathetic tramp.
If you love being hurt by others, then you can stick around her. Don't ever dream of getting an apology and do not suggest her anything. She doesn't know what she wants.
2007-11-17 16:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I was in this same situation once...but I only went back to the loser boyfriend because the current "friend" didn't show any signs of wanting to be in a realtionship so I did what I thought was best for me cause I didn't want my "friend" to hurt me or get hurt...only later did I find out that he really did want to be with me after I chose the loser? Why is it that guys do that?
2007-11-17 16:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
why do some girls do that,that's exactly what my Boyfriend did to me.later on he asked me out and i said no to him.he got all butt hurt I guess all u can do now is just move on with ur life.Face it theres other fish in the sea.Tell that "girl" that "what goes around comes back around".Don't worry son,u will find that special someone one day.:)
2007-11-17 16:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
u prolly did the right thing - for her to choose her "cheating-doesnt go to school or have a job, jerk bf" (lol) over you (who seems pretty mature), then she did the wrong thing. but im glad u stood up for urself - shes not worth it, ull find someone else whos more mature and knows wat love is
2007-11-17 16:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm i cant really understand the middle part... but i think what u were trying to say was that you guys were bf/gf, you were there for her, but in the end, she went back w/ her ex.
if that is what happened, then i think u did the right thing. she was probably using you & didnt even like you in that kind of way.
maybe im being too harsh... idk... but i guess you can just be back to friends or something...
2007-11-17 16:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Arikashikari_Peace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have some integrity. Hold your ground. You did the right thing.
There are much better girls out there for you.
Stronger ones.
2007-11-17 16:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by vhesponage 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋