Please i need help with older men, please help!!!!?

Question

ok, so basically i started my new job today and et a few guys who are super good looking, nice and we flirted all day. did i mention funny. ahaha, well one of them was 32 for sure, and the other one was between 18 - 21, anyhow, im a junior in high school, i seem to be attracted to older guys. why? is this bad? what can i do. and pleas dont tell me stay in my age range, i only like one guy, and i get super nervous around him, which i usually dont,l and he has a girlfriend, so any ideas? haha, please. i got asked out recently by a freshman in college whop i said no to, and really regret it too. ughhh

Answer 1

I know that you said for us to not tell you to stay in your age range, but that is the best thing for you to do right now. Since you're a junior in high school, then that means that you're no older than 17 years old.

There's nothing wrong with falling for someone older though. It happens to the best of us. Many older people seem to have and offer what people in our age range can't...that's probably what makes us want them so much.

But if you truly care for someone who is 18 and up, then why would you make advances toward them knowing that you would be the source for them to catch a statutory rape case? If a guy who is way older is dealing with underage females, then that automatically says a lot about him. That shouldn't be a guy that you want to get involved with...even though you have a crush on him.

Trust me..you DO NOT want to be in that situation. Take my advice.

Answer 2

Listen, I can understand you wanting the attention of an older guy, when I was a teenager I liked the attention of an older gal, but let's face it, any guy that age (especially the 32 yr old) who would interested in a high school girl has something wrong with him. He's a pervert and it could be dangerous for you to be around him alone. It may have been innocent being that it was in a work enviroment and he just enjoyed knowing he was still attractive to a young girl. But this is an area you need to stay away from. You have plenty of time to worry about guys. Be a kid and enjoy it while you can. Responsibility and adulthood comes along so fast and once it's here there's no going back. Imagine if you were to get pregnant by someone of any age, your childhood would be gone, and you can never get it back.

Answer 3

You like older men because they are more mature most of the time anyway and they know what they are doing and how to romance a female. There is nothing wrong with a man that is a few years older than you. There are even guys that prefer older women instead of one younger or about the same age as them. I have a friend that dates a guy that is 10 years younger than her and he is crazy about her. I have another friend that married a guy that was 10 years older than her and she had dated him from the time she was 16 years old. Now they are married and have 2 kids and they are very happy. She said guys around her age were too immature and didn't know what they wanted out of life. Just don't let them use you for a one night stand and than leave you because they will. Sometimes older men have this problem of seeing if they till got it and can get a younger female and there are a lot of females that fall right into their arms only to be used for a one night stand just to prove their manhood.

Answer 4

I understand how you feel, I was the same way in highschool. For me it was because I was frustrated with the immaturity of boys my age. I don't see any problem with dating an older guy (maybe not 32, but 18-21 yea) as long as you refrain from sex until you're 18. Obviously that's just my opinion, it's your choice, I'm just talking from a legal standpoint. And if you really come to love him and you both consent, then go for it :) It's always fun to give new things a try, just be cautious because alot of older men like to take advantage of younger girls, so don't go into the relationship naively, be aware and be in control. Also, be sure to exude confidence cuz that's a big turn on to real men :)

Answer 5

its all right to feel attracted to older guys. Lots of girls out there feel the same. Older guys are way more mature than the same age or age range guys. They know what we girls want to hear or see.
However, if you are not ready for some serious relationship dont fall for him. your older guy is probably a flirty with gorgeous body, smile and face. just flirt not fall for him. Remember when he is 21 you are only in your junior high school. You two have a very big age difference with that difference comes with different mindsets.

Answer 6

Take a chill pill girl. First thing is first, I married a woman that was 5 years younger than me. She was 18 and I was 23, was it wrong? I believe age is a number pass 18. Now here is the disadvantage to it all, I was older and I thought older than my wife. This cause a problem sometimes especially when it comes to money. Older people think about there future at least for most of us. Younger people only think about right now and they are very sensitive because life has not mold them yet and they have no calluses in there feelings yet. I say when you are mature enough to think about marriage and want to have a family then think about older men but if not stop messing around. Now you may find a older guy that's not married and does not want to get married and my answer is if you just want to be a piece of meat go for it but if you want somebody that's going to love you and that's going to die for you if needed, look for somebody that is willing to to give you his heart with out you giving your body. I know society says its ok now but nobody can deny they feel like trash after the first and it gets worst as you sleep with more men or woman for a guy that is. You are young enjoy your youth life is not all about having a sex partner or being someones dog. Life is about denying your self to give your all to others. Especially God who looks from above and knows it all.

Answer 7

I'm 30 years old and I like the older guys too. I think it's a maturity thing. Be careful about this though. I assume that you are under the age of 18. And all states have a statutory rape law of some sort and if sex occurs, he will be charged as such along with a life of having to file as a phedifile for life.

Answer 8

Your a Junior in high school and that puts you right in the 16 year old range and need to stay in that age range (15 to 18).

Where is the 32 year old gonna take you on a date? Dairy Queen?

A freshman in college has more on his mind then what you might think.

Answer 9

I don't know if it's bad or not but it's probably because older men are more mature and some treat women better than younger men. It seems younger men just want sex I guess. I don't know though it's weird because when I was younger all I wanted to do was party and really wasn't into the sex. I guess times have changed a lot. If you don't like your age range then don't stay in your age range as long as it's not illegal for an older man to date you. Otherwise love has no boundaries. I don't like women my age they're all b!tchy

Answer 10

well to answer your ques+question as to why you are attracted to older men well that could take a degree in psychiatry...just except it some chicks are just that way ...so do what you feel is right just keep in mind the legalities of it all ...last thing you'd wanna do is get some guy in trouble because you came on to him...and usually the closer he is to your age the less likely anyone especially your parents would press the issue...when you do turn 18 you can freely do what you want (by the way im an older man and my number is 555-1234 ..LOL...JJ we older men do like our ladies a little younger even if we don't admit to it LOL)..anyways as far as the rest of it goes.. well just be straight up none of that whole guess what I'm thinking crap LOL just say what you want from us and be sure its what you want cause yeah.. well ..were probably ready to give it to ya if you just ask...be bold