I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months and ya know how at 1st everything is so exciting because its new? well at 1st we called and texted eachother ALOT but now its every other day that we talk and he gets mad at me because he wants to know why i dont call him that much anymore and its because when i DO call him he doesnt answer and when i DO leave a message it takes him forever to return the damn call ...So i basicly just stopped calling him and now sometimes when he calls me its at 1 or 2 in the morning ... Im guessing that he must be talking with some other females but whatever ...What do u think?
2007-11-17 15:51:41 · 39 answers · asked by LEXI ♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really like him but im starting to get fed up with this S h i t ...And when i tell him this he tells me "oh cut it out ok ya know its not like that , I love you " ..... ???
2007-11-17 15:52:50 · update #1
You need to dump the loser and find yourself a nicer guy who will not be bossy and also will treat you like his queen.
2007-11-17 16:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by conde_c_b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I'm not sure on your age. It is is strange that he calls at 1 & 2 in the morning have you asked him why he is up that late? My husband and I are shift workers and we dont even call each other that late.
But I had the same problem with my husband when we first started dating. At first there were non stop messages and phone calls and then we just started running out of things to say so the messages and phone calls weren't so frequent and it did feel strange a first but now I look back and think we spent alot of money of just messages and phone calls .
We talk maybe once a day and we dont send messages anymore.
It could be a similar situation its hard to say.
I think you should just ask him and see what he says but dont make it out that you are interigating him.
2007-11-17 16:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly ... turn your mobile off before you go to bed because it is really very inconsiderate of him, or anyone for that matter, to be calling that time of night!
Next... you have to decide if you really DO want a relationship with this man or not!
If you think he is talking to other women then you obviously do not feel secure with the relationship you do have, and that will lead to distrust and suspicion, is that how you want to feel in a relationship?
It seems to me that your relationship is based on 'give and take'...the more you give the more he wants to take!
Unfortunately some men and women think that as soon as they are bf and gf they own the other partner!!!
A good relationship is based on mutual trust and respect for each other and your individuality. Each of us needs to know that we are loved and respected and that our opinions ARE important, if you have any doubt about that then you are definately with the wrong person.
THE BEST FOUNDATION FOR A LONG AND HAPPY LIFE WITH YOUR CHOSEN PARTNER IS ONE BASED ON FRIENDSHIP, TRUST AND RESPECT!!!
LOVE TAKES A LONG TIME TO GROW AND MATURE!
2007-11-17 16:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by buttons_and_bows_4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is opossible that he does have another female on the side. Because with guys they will tell you they love and don't really mean it so don't take into it so fast. If he has to wait that damn loing to ******* call you then it should be no doubt in your mind that he is cheating on you with someone else. He could be just waiting for you tro break up with him so he can be with this other chick but don't give the fool the luxury of breaking up with him first. Just go and do yo own damn thing he let his *** do what the **** he does just let him know that one day you will catch his *** doing whatever the **** he is doing in that time he isn't calling you or on the phone with you.
2007-11-17 16:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by Shonell 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh wow, he's a jerk. He calls you late a night because its the last thing on his mind. Plus he probulay thinks that you have nothing better to do than wait for him to call. If you guys have been going out for 5 months and he doesn't say/act like he loves you, then you need a new man. You should be the first person he thinks about when he wakes up and the last thing he thinks about when he goes to bed. You should be the only person he wants to talk too and he should treat you like your everthing. It sounds like this guy doesn't. You really need to talk to him and take a break. Tell him you need him to figure out where your relationship stands with him and once he figures it out to give you a call.
2007-11-17 15:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Both of you need to just realize that your relationship has left the honeymoon phase. You need to figure out - together - what amount of contact is good and how much is too much. You need to decide this when you are both being reasonable, not when you are arguing. He would like more contact but he is slow to respond. OK, it sounds like you two could talk about the reasonable time to respond or even have a typical check-in time each day to share with each other and make plans. He tells you he loves you - if you really feel that he is no longer interested, you should drop him, But if you are just paranoid because he is not as responsive and he is getting defensive and saying you do not call like you used to - you two just need to talk it out like adults.
2007-11-17 15:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
there may be a chance that he is talking with other females, he is enjoying the playing field. You give him what he wants when you call all the time. Yes he may have liked it at first because it was new but somewhere it all fell off. Come up front with him and see where his head is at. Or join in the playing field and have him in turn chase after you! That is so much fun!
2007-11-17 15:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Snickerlicious 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is not a good sign that he calls you that late. 2-3 am phone calls are usually booty calls. It kinda sounds like a head game oh you never call. When you really do call and he doesn't pick up. I really don't want you to waste your time because it doesn't seem that this relationship is going anywhere. Relationships start with communication.
2007-11-17 15:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Vanessa♥ஐ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds to me like he's slipping away. He gets mad at you for not calling that much anymore but you are in fact calling him and he's taking a long time to return your call. And he doesn't notice what he's doing? And calls you so late at night. Why? Is he just getting home at that hour? I would tell him to get his act together.
2007-11-17 15:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by jognmiles 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
According to my point of view, as your friend, I feel that it is important that you do cut the relationship now because he isn't giving you plenty of tender, loving, care and respect that any beatiful woman does deserve.
2007-11-17 16:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by soar_2307 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋