I was asked to be a bridesmaid from a friend that I have known since 5th grade, since 10th grade we have really lost contact. Seven years later we started working together, but not even hung out once since then and that has been six months.
She recently got engaged and is going ot be married in January and asked me and 2 girls we were friends with in 5th grade through 10th grade (the other two were still good friends through 12th grade with her). The other two girls declined being bridesmaids and I accepted.
I did explain that since I am unemployed and just had a baby 10 weeks ago I could do it as long as the dress wasnt expensive and I could make payments on it. After getting fitted for the dress it is going to cost 130 before the cost of alterations and I cant make payments. It has to be paid in full before being ordered.
How do I explain I dont have that much money to just fork out for a dress right this second? She said dress has to be ordered asap for prompt delivey
2007-11-17 15:31:14 · 14 answers · asked by Jane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Simply tell her your situation. If she wants you to be in her wedding, she will either have to pay for your dress or find something more affordable.
2007-11-17 15:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by KyLoveChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say, very simply that you don't have the money for a dress right now, and that you had explained your situation to her when she asked you to be her bridesmaid. Tell her you're willing to drop out of the wedding if it's going to be a problem. Honesty is the absolute best policy here. Good luck!
2007-11-17 15:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is really tough you have made a commitment and with the wedding so close you could send her over the deep end I understand not having the money but she is relying on you and will likely not be able to find someone to take your place if you really cant find a way to make it work you must tell her now!! be honest she might be able to help out depending on her wedding budget
2007-11-17 18:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answerer's.Just tell her.Its better to do it now than to wait.Surely if she if a good friend,she will understand your situation.Honestly if she does get mad,then maybe she isn't a very good friend.Especially since you were up front about it all at the beginning..Good luck!!
2007-11-17 16:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~ Ali ~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you'll have to decline due to the recent addition of your baby and your funds are being directed at her/his health and well being.
A TRUE friend will understand.
2007-11-18 10:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, if she really cares about you, she will not try to put you in a financial bind or pay for the dress. If she does not care about you and your situation, you will have your answer.
2007-11-17 15:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Einewid L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth, your unemployed and just had a baby and dont have the money to buy a dress.
2007-11-17 15:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by J Rebel 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
explain to your friend that unfortunately you can't find a way to make the repayments, but you'd still like to help her out in any way you can to make her day special and stress-free, but sadly you won't be able to be a bridesmaid.
any human being can understand financial difficulties.
2007-11-17 20:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by chilly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a real friend would understand... Be honest & let her know - better early than too late.
2007-11-17 15:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by Suz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just what you told us. It is honest and straightforward.
Congrats on the new baby!
2007-11-17 18:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋