If you've ever read any of my other questions, or even answers, you know that I'm crazy in love with my ex girlfriend. If you haven't, well now you know. She "broke my heart". It's still beating, I'm still physically alive but I feel physical pain. Why? I'm 100% sure it's not from any physical trauma. Why do I physically hurt? Does this happen to any one else?
2007-11-17 14:45:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The pain will never go away.
2007-11-17 16:31:23 · update #1
oh nick. i know your story pretty well. i thought you and your ex was still trying. it sounds like your suffering from the broken heart syndrome. emotional pain can cause physical pain. why? it just happens. your body is merely reacting to how your feeling. i really don't know how to explain it. but, i understand completely.
2007-11-17 17:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read the answers here and apparently they have not had a broken heart. I does hurt and very bad physical and emotionally. Your heart itself is not hurt but the pain you feel inside is real. It is your bodies response to an emotionally hurt, just like your body would hurt when you cut yourself or break a bone. It just takes a lot of meditation and a lot of time. It is true that time heals all wounds, both physical and emotional. Get busy doing something that brought you pleasure before her, keep at it, it will not be easy at first. Bring in friends and family for support, they love you and are there for you. I promise, you will live through this and love again. I PROMISE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-17 22:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, being emotionally devastated does actually physical hurt. At times you might even like you're dying. Those kind of strong emotions stress your body to it's limits so I'm not surprised you can feel it physically. It's pretty normal, but if you are concerned about it then I'd recommend that you see your family doctor.
I know it hurts physically because I've been through it. It sucks. And I'm reasonably sure being hit by a bus would hurt less.
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2007-11-17 22:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Shel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your body can and will do strange things when you are stressed or hurting inside. People can have chest pain due to anxiety, and many things that can mimic a heart attack, when it can be acid reflux or anxiety or more.
I am sorry she broke your heart. Time will ease your pain. It is ok to grieve. If in a couple of months you are still feeling the same, you should go and talk to a doctor to help you with your "depression". Sometimes we just need a little kick to get us going again. It doesn't make us crazy.
In the meantime, go out and volunteer. It will help you get your mind off of her while you are helping others. It will also put smiles on those whom you are helping and it will help lift your spirits. You will meet many new friends. God Bless you. My prayers are with you at this time of sorrow during the holidays.
2007-11-17 22:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. Two years ago, I got screwed over very badly. My body temperature dropped, and I was freezing in August on the East Coast. I had pain in the right side of my chest that went through to my back. My head and stomache hurt constantly. I think all the moisture was sucked out of my eye sockets, etc. from the random crying jags I went through.
There are chemical (and therefore physical) changes that happen when you are in love or when you are dumped.
Your physical pain is not just in your head.
2007-11-17 22:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by deirdrezz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's happened to me too. Do you have that feeling that your heart is squuezing itself, or like it's literally dropping? I thinkyou have physical pain because you are under a severe amount of stress from te break-up. I know it absolutely sucks, but time does heal these things--i've been through it too, so I know how you're feeling right now--but I promise, if you give it time, it will get better. You might not believe that right now, but I swear it's true! Just hang in there, and try to be strong--okay?
2007-11-17 22:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by jules792000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. It's a psychological thing because your emotional and physical well being are very closely connected.
It's also where the phrases "broken heart" and "crush" come from.
It's possible that you're suffering from depression which can also cause physical pain.
2007-11-17 22:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course this happens to almost everyone. Being in love triggers a lot of the same response in your brain as being addicted to a drug -- and you know how painful it can be when an addict undergoes withdrawl.
The good part is that if you're feeling the pain -- AND DEALING WITH IT -- it will eventually subside.
Meditation, stretching, exercising will help with that part of it and have the added benefit of being good for your brain, too. Just don't push yourself too hard because you don't want to strain something.
It might also help to get your mind off your ex by meeting other people (as friends for now, you can figure out dating stuff later) and taking up hobbies. I paint. I'm not good at it but it relaxes me and takes my mind off the asshole who broke my heart in August.
I'm almost over him.
2007-11-17 22:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Schmitty V 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was falling for a guy for a while, and he constantly hurt me in little ways. What's worse, he didn't even REALIZE it! I cried for days and days and stayed up night crying. Even now I feel insecure because of him.
I remember I had migranes, and my heart hurt with every beat. (not to sound dramatic)
But sometimes the emotional stress and toll is so great you physically pain.
I hope you feel better soon! I am sorry
2007-11-17 22:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well welcome to my world homie but its the way it is u know why? u got ur heart real broke u felt the same pain i did u feel so deppresed that it hits u physically is like ur tired and u feel a lot of pain thats ur head too thats making the pain u feel is deppression a lot of it thats why it hurts so much
2007-11-17 22:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋