Ok, so my sister was in the mental hospital and about 4 days ago I got a call saying to come over there. When I got over there they told me she was was starting to calm down and not trying to kill herself every second. So at night they took their eyes off of her for about 10 minutes and she was dead. They're not sure how she died.
What should I do?! Now i'm thinking that I should die because it's all my fault that she's dead. First I loose my mother and now my sister. Both my precious things in my world are gone. My girlfriend hasn't even talked at all since then.
I don't know what i'm supposed to do anymore!
What should I do?!
2007-11-17 13:44:02 · 9 answers · asked by Eric W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My girlfriend was very close to my little sister. They were like sisters.
2007-11-17 13:56:06 · update #1
I am so sorry about your sister! I have been there. I have tried several times to commit suicide but I am still here. I cannot say why some people try and succeed and some people try and fail. But, please, do not go there. How you are feeling right now with your sister's death is how you will be leaving others feeling. I urge you to get into some counseling. Get into church and seek something higher to make some sense of it all. I started writing and that has helped me a lot. Get your feelings out and down on paper in a journal. Volunteer at a suicide prevention hotline after you get in a better frame of mind. Help others with their problems. Above all, do NOT blame yourself. When I tried to do this I was only thinking of myself. Just you turning to this forum proves that you are seeking something and do not want to harm yourself. Guilt is a heavy burden to bear. Talk to others who can help you. Go do the doctor for some anti-depressants. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Do something to honor your mother's and sister's memory. They will live on in your heart .. put together picture albums, videos and poetry about them to share with future generations. You will feel so much better.
2007-11-17 14:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by MiMi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's a hard time for you and your girlfriend. But what you don't want to do is kill yourself. It would just make everything worse. You did what you thought was the right thing to do. i'm sorry to hear this. But what you got to do is remember how you helped her and how she was calming down. They will find how it happened. I really don't think she killed herself. They don't allow anything that could hurt or killl someone. Ask if there were any signs of her being ill or if she has been acting strange. You may know if they give you some things. I know how bad it hurts to lose someone you love so much and just after the death of another loved one.
I lost my parents just a day before i lost my best friend. I was really close to my parents i loved them so much. My best friend was at a mental hospital when she well died. I felt reallybad about it. Because i took her there. Thats how i ended up in the same hospital i got so depressed. It's not your falt that happened. You did what was right. If you didn't she would have been gone.
What you have to think now is that she is up in heaven with everyone that loved her. That she is looking down upon you and your girlfriend. That she is still with you in sprit, mind and heart. She loves you. She wouldn't have tried to kill herself if she was calm. She may have caught something or she had something.
God is here for you. If you want to talk to her just pray to god and she wil talk to you. You may not be able to hear her. But you will know when she replies to you. You get a felling that she is talking to you. I wish you all the best.
There are people out there that care about you. Even people who don't know you care about you. I am one of them. That is because im a caring person i can feel peoples pain. I feel the pain and the sadness of others more then a person should. So i hope all goes well.
I'm really sorry. I'll pray for you at church today. Everything willbe fine if you put your faith and trust in GOD.
GOD BLESS YOU
2007-11-18 11:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get yourself some help!!!! Fast alot of times we feel guilty about a love one taking their own life but we really shouldnt. Its a hard thing to deal with but you arent helping bu doing the samething. You can help others and yourself by talking about what happened to you and trying to help someone else in the same position!!
as for your g/f friend you shopuld realize that she is hurting for you and she may not know how to help you with what you are going thru. And also if you stated to her that all the precious things in your life are gone know she may be feeling left out of your life or likr you dont love her. You need to open up to her and talk and let her know how you are feeling. she may want to as well as be able to help you and just dont know whre to start.
I'm going to pray for you and youkeep your head up things will get better!
2007-11-17 21:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by mousey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill yourself! That will only make things worse! don't be so weak! I know it's sad, but you have to move on! My parents disappeared when I was younger, and look!! I'm still here! You'll be better soon. Time is the best cure.
2007-11-17 21:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by SoundofSettling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetie. your situation sounds so tough. i've never been in ANY thing like that.. but if i ever was.. i might do something like start going to church more, or go to a quiet place and read and try to take your mind off things. go to their graves, and just sit and talk to them like they are there. my moms brother killed himself at 19 yrs old. don't ever make that mistake. please.
and i don't know much about your girlfriend.. but try to get her to talk it out with you. tell her that you're under a lot of pressure and you need someone to just let it all out to. or something.
i'll keep you & all of your family in my prayers.
good luck.
bye <33
2007-11-17 22:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by shelby :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counseling grief therapy in a group of others to talk about it keeping it all in only hurts worse ,i know ,lost my daughter my mother my father all 4 grandparents in short time it does get better
2007-11-17 22:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by wilkatie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault your sister killed her self when my mom died i just hung out with my friends and did stuff maybe that what you need to do and you dont deserve to die
2007-11-17 21:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss. Your sister had mental illness and you should not blame yourself for her demise.
2007-11-17 22:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont kill your self you have to be strong you will get thow it just give yourself time iam reaily sorry about what happend i reaily hope you end up okay
2007-11-17 22:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋