my 15 year old son didnt come home last night what should we do?

Question

he has been talking back to his mom, yelling, failing shcool, dont do nothing he's told. we tryed talking to him, working it out ect. he started counseling, and we called the police too, but he still didnt come home last night and isnt home yet, cant call either cause we dont have any idea where hes at.

Answer 1

Call his friends or others from his school who may know where he's at. If no luck, call the cops and report a missing person.

Good Luck! God Bless! I'll be praying for y'all!

Answer 2

If you have already called the police make sure you (Yourself and his mom) go look for him also!! someone near where I live had a 17 year old go missing and he shot his self in the head right down the road from where I live. and they waited a WEEK to look for their kid. Don't take that chance. You never know. The main thing when he does come home don't jump on him, he will expect that. Instead show him love and be concerned about him. with kids you have to do the unexpected. And with boys they are so hard hearted and tough because that's the way this world has made them. so that is a big part of his problem. But just keep praying for help and stay involved in school stuff and find something like hunting or something that will keep him busy. I hope everything works out okay!!! Good Luck And I will pray that everything works out for you guys!!! Have a Happy THANKSGIVING!!!

Answer 3

Call the police, report that your son has disappeared, that should be done before anything else. You will either be called in to file a police report or they'll send some cops to you.

You also need to file a missing persons report. From there, I don't know what to tell you. They'll have his picture in a national database of missing people, but there is no telling he will be found.

He could just be really down about all of what he is going through right now, he will probably come home. But you don't want to take a chance, so make sure you file those reports.

Good luck and God's speed.

Answer 4

Well for now, I would begin calling all his friends' houses and asking if they've seen him or know where he is. Tell everyone you talk to that if they see him, get him home immediately. If friends haven't seen him, ask them if they have any ideas where you could try. Their peers are usually a wealth of information when it comes to finding kids. If you don't find him after talking to his friends, I would call the police. (When you speak to the police-- be very clear if you don't want charges pressed against him for running away or don't want him taken to Juvenile detention.. which you probably don't want just yet, since they usually come out of those places worse than when they went in..)
As far as when he DOES get back home, make sure you have a really good solid and enforceable consequnce for him and set up a written list of his expectations, consequences for not following the consequences. Go with consequences that are enforceable, such as losing privlidges. (since you can't physically MAKE him clean the kitchen or do the laundary, this won't be an effective consequence in case he decides not to follow it..)
After a little while of you enforcing these consequences, he WILL come around eventually... even if it gets worse first (which it usually does becuase they are testing you)

Answer 5

I would call the police to at least file a missing persons report so that they can issue an Amber Alert. Then you will get a file number. If he comes home call the police again and tell them that he had arrived home. Do you know where he hangs out? Do you know his friends and their parents? I would start by tracking him down to his regular hangouts. You should ask him where he is going next time and tell him to call if he isn't going to be home if he decides to stay at a friends or somewhere else. Don't yell at him. It won't do anybody good in the end, because everyone is frustrated and anxious at that point. Sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk WITH open mind and heart and actually listen without interruptions.

Answer 6

The reason you SHOULD call the police, is because you don't have any idea where you are.

Now, at 15, many of these things are perfectly normal - even failing school - he's finally realizing he's going to work every day and not getting paid for it. You've just got to get him back on track.

Now, I know, for reasons I'm not going to get into, that I wouldn't make a good parent just now, therefor I don't have children. And while not everyone has good spelling, you might make a better impression if you click on CHECK SPELLING before submitting a question. In any case, I don't know any adults to say "dont do nothing he's told". Setting a good example is the best way to go - he's more likely to take you seriously that way.

Answer 7

It sounds like you're some pretty bad parents. I bet you don't let him express himself and you try to dictate his life for him. It's too late to instill some values in him now though cause he probably already hates you. Give him some space and let him make some decisions on his own. And my guess is that he probably passed out at some party the night before. If he's not home by now then call the cops. And when he comes back, give him a guilt trip but sound sincere.

Answer 8

I am not sure what state you live in. I live in nyc. If your child is uncontrolable, you can go to family court and take out what is called a PINS petition. PINS stands for Persons In Need of Supervison. Calling the police is really not going to do anything. Check with the family court in your area. Also, when your son goes missing for more than 24 hours, file a missing person's report.

Answer 9

Check at every friends house that you do know, and ask them where else they think he might be. Check at his girlfriends house. If he has some money and any out of town friends or relatives, check them also.
You say you called the police, I would keep calling and checking with them.Have they broadcast this to other areas? Call all area hospitals.
Make sure you call his counsellor, also, for advice on how to treat him when he comes home.
I hope he is home soon, safe and sound.

Answer 10

I hope that you have a list of all of his friends. If you don't please update this because he is spiraling out of control. Help him now before he gets into too much trouble. Try signing him up with sports, activites, and mentor programs. There are womderful youth and peer support programs everywhere. This is a very trying time in his life. Speak openly and communicate about everything. Call his friends cell numbers and find out where he is. He may have gone to a house party.