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Question

my mom is not appriciating anything i do for her.
i just gave her 900 dollars. 500 so she can pay back her friend and the other 400 is to get her teeth fixed. And now she is saying that i dont wash the dishes, and i always wash it. Now i have the feeling of hating her. My brother who is 23 is all saying that i give him an attitude. and i dont ever. I HATE HIM SO MUCH.
now i wanna die. i know its bad but i feel so...

Answer 1

its ok my mom does that alot too I wash the dishes and she gets mad at me..you need to firmly tell her you gave her money and youdo the dishes..and either she needs to appriciate what you do or youll leave it mite scare her..And if she yells at you.tell her mom I love you but your hurting my feelings and I dont know what to do any more..

dont kill your self ..the lor dloves you pray about it..im 15 and I have bad feelings towards others too..but god is there for me..

Answer 2

Nancy,
What you say is true, no defense. What influences are behind these disconnected out bursts to you? If you do the dishes - why does she say do the dishes. Your brother see and hears an attitude, is there one?
There are people who complain about everything and other never complain ever.
Attitude can be nonverbal, as well as verbal. Rolling ones eyes can be more irritating then talking back - to some. Review what you did, or talk - not fight - talk about any bad habits you have with people you trust, or your brother.
Also listening is a good way to avoid problems, Listening and not talking, listen to your mother and brother first, to hear and see (body language) if there are clues to these actions.
Lastly just wait and move when you can, your stuck on a bad ship, as I was once, you may just have to quietly wait it out then move. I would suggest university life, in the dorms - which your ready for. Going to school would mean not killing yourself - there is so much to see and life will get better, really.

Answer 3

Listen, I know it is hard and you feel really hated right now. Just keep your self in the upward position and know what you did was a good thing. Maybe your brother resents you because you are able to do it for your mom and he can not. Maybe your mom just feels terrible inside and does not know how to express her gratitude for what you have done , maybe telling you about the dishes was her way of saying I am sorry you should not be doing so much for me. She is a mom...maybe tell her that sure you'll do the dishes and just keep a postive outlook. I know you did a good deed it will pay off in the end. I hope all works out for you but never, ever think to die cause people like you are hard to find now days. Good luck..

Answer 4

Maybe your mother is going through something right now. My father passed when I was just 14 and my mother went through a really hard time. Even if we spend from sun up to sun down cleaning for her and doing things for her like taking care of her baby or something, she would still yell at everybody and complain of how we never do anything and just sit around. It was really weird. She is a whole lot better now, but what I am trying to say is see if anything is up with your mother. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe it is just typical family drama. I'm sure your mother appreciates what you do for her. You know she loves you. Don't get little things that parents say get to you, because they can annoy us just as much as we annoy them.

Same with your brother. Maybe he is stressed about some things or something. Just be kind to them and try not to give them any trouble, and let them have their days. Just be there for them.

Answer 5

Nancy,
I was "invisible" in my house when I was growing up so I understand where you're coming from. It'll get better when you grow up and move out. Seriously, that's the only way I think my mom started to notice me. Just leave. Live your own life, and maybe in time they'll come around. And please, remember your situation when you start a family and don't favor one child over another.

Answer 6

Has crying ever saved anyone, did it ever do the chores ? No...

But it will help release you pent up tension or show your mother what you feel in a different language which might be effect in your current situation.

Answer 7

Sometimes our family don't appreciate us, but God sees what you've sacrificied and He will bless you for it! Jesus told us in the Bible that we should not hate anyone, and I know you said you hate your brother, but I don't think you really mean it. The best thing you can do for yourself and your family, is to talk to Jesus and ask Him to put His love into them. Ask Him to help you too, to give you strength and courage, and He will. He will also give you peace and happiness, just believe that He will! I will be praying for you.

Lovingly,
Virginia

Answer 8

I get the same thing!!! Go to your mom, and yell at her, telling her what she's doing, and don't regret it. Show her that you are hurt.

Answer 9

DONT FEEL BAD..DAYS SUCK SUMTIMESZ