Parents wont let me choose my career, what to do?

Question

Im currently 17 and junior in high school. My mom wants me to pretty much spend my whole life living close to her (because oh she loves controlling me) and she already decided that i should be an accountant. Every time i try to talk to her about what I want to be in this life, all she does is start screaming, yelling, laughing and never tries to understand me. She thinks that what I want to become is ridiculous and I will fail. And then she says that she raised a failure because i wont listen to her. I try to tell her that i want to pursue a career that im passionate about, and the career that i will enjoy working on my whole life. I dont want to be someone i dont want to be and suffer the rest of my life because of her. My dad supports my mom so i have noone to support me. I am thinking about just packing up and leaving when i finish high school and saved up some money. But that would result in destroying a relationship with my whole family. What should i do?

Answer 1

I would move out of home and move away, and be who YOU want to be. IF by the time you finish school they still don't care about YOUR life and needs.

Some parents will always be control freaks and sometimes the best thing is get to get the hell away from them for good.

Good luck and never compromise who you are for anyone!.

Answer 2

I would say to sit down with both parents and ask them why they want you to be an accountant. Perhaps they have some valid reasons....You did not mention the career you want, so i can't say anything for that.

If distance is an issue, then try to find some schools in your area. Bottom line - you need to do what makes you happy, even though your parents may object. This is your future. Remember that your family will always love you -even when times get tough.

Answer 3

I'd say just nod along with your mother whenever she pressures you about it, and don't give her any trouble. But, on your own, still pursue the interests YOU want. Take classes and whatnot that facilitate what you want to learn, and maybe just convince her they're necessary for accounting, too. Then, when you're in college and probably many miles away from her, you can pursue your dream to the fullest. Maybe you'll come back to your mom and show her how successful you've become, and she'll completely regret ever doubting you. The main thing is to just give her the chance to put down your interests by not involving her with them.

Answer 4

The worse mistake parents can do is choosing a future for their lives. Parents are supposed to encourage and support their children.
I always tell teens to obey their parents because parents know best. Not all the parents are equal, so my advice to you is wait one more year and choose something you really think is gonna be good for you.

Love and respect your parents, but when it comes to your future, you are the one to decide.

Good luck.

Answer 5

That won't destroy your whole relationship, and if it does, perhaps you will be better off anyway.....or stay and fight a battle every day and be miserable.

Almost time to go out in the world and be your own person and be an adult. I say go!

Answer 6

You need to choose your own career, move out, and get a pell grant to help pay for your schooling, moving is the best thing you can do,

Answer 7

well, if youreally want it, talk to your parents try to convince them, show them how much you want it, how much you need it, show her, talk to her, if she wont let you go your own way sorry man, but not very supportive mom. just go along with her and live your life how she wants it. or, just go your own way.