could someone please answer my question, I'm so sad!?

Question

I posted this earlier i only got one answer, please answer me, i can't sleep

Hi there,

So here's the story...me and my bf have long distance relationship....but we talk everyday....so i came back home and was so excited to call him...I called him, and he picked up and sounded not in a good mood, then i was trying to make it better, he said he has a toothache...and he asked me to call him back later...but the tone of my voice change cause i felt i got put down since i was so happy to call him...so then he goes like why ur tone is down bla bla bla, iwas like nothing, i just don't wanna stay on the phone when ur hurting, then we got in a little argument...so he told me 'i just wanna break this phone, i'm tired of listening to it and its voice' i was like 'wow that feels cold and awkward'..he goes like ok 'don't call me anymore' so i hung up crowled in my bed so sad and slept....should i call him again? i don't wanna call, but i just wanna know if i should or if i did anything wrong?

Answer 1

Oh heavens no, please call him again. I know exactly what you are feeling, all too well. I live in NY and my girlfriend lives in Missouri, so we feel the same way. As much as it hurts to fight, you need to make up. Call and tell him you're sorry, and if he wont pick up, call him again and again til he answers. Leave him a sweet voicemail, a sweet text message, anything in the world you can do to talk to him do it. My girlfriend and I have gotten in to like a billion arguements, I normally give in and say Im sorry first, but sometimes you need to be the one to make the next move. We have been together (as of next sunday) 20 months, and every time we fight, we ask eachother "is this stupid arguement worth our relationship?" Do what ever you can to keep him. Call till you cant anymore. Good luck

Answer 2

Sounds like a typical lover's spat. people get cranky.

From context you both were cranky. the context of "ok so don't call me any more" .. was more to get back at you in the moment. probably.

If anything .. You should have bailed the phone call when he asked you to call him back later. Live and learn. alas.

Do not call tonight. but wait a day or two. and then call and see what happens. Ask if he is feeling better. Ask if he really meant not to call again.

That is the problem with any relationship. one wants things to go well so much .. and yet from time to time we blow it. sometimes so much so that one must move on.

good luck and try again!
I think you will be ok for now.
try and reduce the distance.

Answer 3

Sometimes long distance relationships are stretched to their limit and people that want to be together and can't, due to circumstances get in spats cause they miss each other so much, on the other hand some people especially guys really don't handle the distance apart very well and may want to see other people and feel guilty and don't know how to tell the person they are involved with. Call so you too can talk it out and try to find out what the real story is!

Answer 4

A long distance relationship is not easy. I am not sure how old you are but if you are younger then it's even harder if you can't see him. Call him back, just tell him you wanted to know what was going on and if he couldn't take the distance between you.

I know it may be hard but maybe the best thing to do for right now is go your separate ways and see what happens.

Good luck and get some rest. There are more guys out there that are actually closer.

Answer 5

That sounds like an unusual argument to have. Such a small issue to get angry about, all he had to do was tell you he didn't feel well and hang up. Sounds very young and immature, he was probably just irritated and in pain.
How long have you two been together? If he told you not to call him anymore, does he mean your broken up? You need to try and get in contact with him, by internet if he doesn't want to talk on the phone. You cant force him to talk to you, and why would you want to? Find someone who isnt so easy to blow up at you. Hes not worth the trouble if he dismisses your feelings altogether.

Answer 6

I would say stay out of long distance relationships they aren't very fulfilling from my experiences. If they really did have a toothache I can see why they'd be upset and potentially take it out on you but who knows. Its hard to interpret signals over the phone because you only have words and tone. Just wait, they'll probably call back and apologize. If they don't just move on and find someone closer to home.

Answer 7

Long distance relationships can be complicated and from the way you talked about him, he sounds like a jerk. he disappointed you when you were so happy to talk to him and then he told you not to call him. No guy should be so rude to his gf and if he is then he doesn't deserve her. I would say don't call him because he will feel too special and take you for granted. Let him come after you, do not call him and if he doesn't then its his loss.
I wish you the best, good luck!

Answer 8

Sweetie, you didn't do anything wrong. Your just being a good girlfriend who's obviously not being appreciated in the right way. I would give him some time before you called him, I know it's tempting to call, but sometimes it's just best to let that person clear their head and blow off some steam. Don't be sad though( I know it's easier said than done) try and get a good night's sleep and see how everything turns out tomorrow.
Good Luck! <3

Answer 9

Wait until tomorrow to call him. Maybe he was just in a bad mood, and took it out on you. give him (and you) time to cool off, and talk about it when you're both level headed.

Being in a long distance relationship is hard, I know, I've done it. There have been plenty of times when I wanted to end it. But stick with it, if its worth it. Good Luck

Answer 10

Wait a day or so until your emotions and his have both calmed down, then call him. You can also try emailing him. Make sure he gets his toothache looked at though - if it goes on to long, he may need a root canal! And if he's in pain, he won't be making good decisions.