self harm...?

Question

Hi
I self harm. [ please do not try convince me to stop or tell me the dangers. im fully aware of what im doing. i dont do it reuglary. its something i do when i cant cope and i am gettin help. im seeing a GP fortnightly and a counsellor weekly but its early days. i have yet to properly talk to the counsellor about the self harm but we have briefly talked about it. she said when i am ready to stop i will stop. and she will help me develop other methods of coping but that might now i might not have the strength in me to stop. and that if i dont want to stop i wont. and i dont want to.]
however when i do it i do like to tell people. crazy as it sounds. i feel relieved for it.
i usually tell my best friend when i have done it and she wil ask to see it to check i dont need any medical help etc.
if i do it in school. and i cant speak to my friend or tell her what should i do? if i do it in school i cant carry on like normal and go to lessons so what do i do?
thankyou very much x

Answer 1

oh my... i hurt myself as well.
will you marry me?
lol jks...

why not do it after school?
maybe you have problems coping with stress?
you should keep yourself happy.

Answer 2

Nart I'm glad you are getting help for how you feel. Yes, self harm is a coping mechanism when you are faced with situations in life that you feel are overwhelming.

I'm thinking your self harming is cutting( there are other types of self harming behaviors.) That is a big problem at school time. To keep safe with this, you need to prep the area, and cleanse and cover it so it won't become infected etc afterwards, and that's probably not something you can do while at school.

Some self harmers choose alternatives... you can try using a red marker instead... if you really need to, and you can get into the why you are doing the act in the first place, you might be able to place that onto the red markings too.

Do you do this so you don't feel, or to feel because you've gone numb? If it's TO feel, then try pinching yourself instead. Yes, it's still self harm, but you won't be opening yourself up to infections.

Your therapist is correct, you won't always have to rely upon this (poor) coping mechanism. Take care for the meantime, ok?

Answer 3

when your ready to stop you will thats true.
i havent selfharmed for 9mths!thats a big thing for me as ive been a self harmer for 13years.
i have found happiness.hopefully you will to.
do anyone else know?is there a teacher you can talk to?
you could try writing it all down then give it to someone.
try and not do it at school i know that is easier said then done but try to destroy some paper or use a tecnique thats worked for you before.
i have always hid my self harm but what i did do once was draw a picture of me with all the injurys i had done to myself.i found that helped and i even got the couarage to show my counceller.
remember you are you.dont class yourself as a selfharmer thats not you its just a thing you do.
Ask your friend to write down all the positive things that make you a friend then keep that bit of paper with you where ever you go.
well done for talking about it
good luck

Answer 4

you tell people because you want help and you want accountability to stop.

My sister was abused as a young girl (she blocked out the memory until she was older) but she still suffered the same things many of this type crime victim acts, hatred of men, distrust of parents, cutting, self loathing ect......
for her she asked me to help her I would go in while she was in the shower I would read, talk to her but just me being there helped her not cut, she would also mutilate her face if left in the bathroom long enough so I would be asked to stay in there with her for that as well, after about 3 years of she started doing better partly because she was finally dealing with what happened and because she was talking about it to people hearing from others that it was not her fault really helped. I know sounds silly but it did, I am glad you are seeing a counselor but also having someone in the home that really understands and is willing to help you through the "tough" times.
hope you get the help and support you need.
I am sure you are a very beautiful person.
As long as your parents know then you can tell your best friend as well just ask for her help so you won't hurt your self at school.

Answer 5

You either stop or tell the school about your "problem". Depending upon the nature of your injuries, it could be considered a bio-hazard. If any fluids are leaked, such as blood, then it has to be treated as a hazardous material. You have to tell them or stop.

It's not about strength. You need to value yourself. You need to understand that you are important. You are loved. You can succeed. You can prosper. You have to make up your mind to acknowledge these things.

Answer 6

i'm glad that you are talking to someone about it. if you can't carry on like normal at school after doing it, and you still do it, then maybe you are trying to tell yourself something, maybe you need someone else to know about it. you know that someone at school is going to notice, a teacher for instance, maybe this is what you need. keep working on the other ways of coping.
good luck.

Answer 7

Write yourself a letter outlining why you did--feelings, thoughts, ect and how you feel now that you have done it.

Answer 8

what is your diet like?
what exercise do you get DAILY
what relaxation techniques are you practicing?

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