What is the problem me? or men?!!?

Question

I have been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now on and off. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago because I lied about being picked up from a train station by a male friend. I lied at first and said I caught a bus because he has an issue with this male friend, but then told him the truth when I was challenged. He got really mad and said he couldn't trust me and that the relationship was over and not to call him. I know i was wrong, but to me it seems so trivial.

Within this week my ex boyfriend has been in contact with me said he wanted me back I for some stupid reason contemplated doing so until I found out that he tried to meet up with a friend (not close friend) of mine basically to have sex. I feel so stupid and let down by men. There's so much more to tell but I think I would send everyone to sleep if I haven’t already done so.
Any advice?

Answer 1

I have been married to the same man for 38 years and I still find some of the things he says very disquieting. Sweet pea, they THINK differently from us.

I hope that you will wait, boyfriendless for a 6 months period or so. Go to the movies with a couple of women friends, preferably somewhat older than you, or meet at a restaurant or coffee house to get your emotional nourishment for these months, from these mature women. And later you will find that women friends are the most nourishing in the long run.

Having a relationship is consuming and can even make you 'lose' yourself in co-dependence. you need to find out who the real 'me' is. Bon chance.

Answer 2

Both ur b/f and you are not ready for a serious relationship, and be glad he did not shoot the guy that picked you up on the down low.

Answer 3

I agree with Tazz , you are both lier and are still entertained by playing games with each other , and playing yo-yo with each others feelings.