My husband set up an account for his son my husbands mother has acces to the account. His mom takes money all the time for herself sometimes $500 or less it depends, but she uses it to pay her own bills she has with her family. It wouldnt be bad if she would ask for money if she really needs it but that doesnt happen I asked my husband to tell her but he didnt say anything. he feels its his family he needs to help so i said ok help them so why not help your brother and sister they all need money. We arent rich but people seem to think when you are in the military you always have money and we also have 3 children. It is for his son and not for his mother to take out when ever she feels like it. He lies to and says he will say something, then he says he does it so I will shut up. This is our money together if I would give my mom money he would be mad and plus mom doesnt have that much either she is by herself and still pays me back if I lend her money.
2007-11-17 09:34:01 · 5 answers · asked by Key 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We live overseas this is the only reason his my husbands mother has acces to his sons account so she can buy him things, and not spend them on her dept. Yes he is being nice but he doesnt want me to give to my family.I wouldnt say anything if she would ask. But his father doesnt even know about this. Should I just shut my mouth?
2007-11-17 10:17:46 · update #1
His son does not live with my husbands mother.
2007-11-17 10:56:42 · update #2
By depositing money in the joint account of your son and his grandma, your husband is making it easy for his mother to draw it and use it as she likes. If she asks for some money from her son, that will hurt her self respect.Your husband , as a good son,shielding his mother from any embarrassment in this way.By meeting his obligations, he is doing a right deed.Seniors do have some of their own expenses but they also have self respect. When your husband was born, the parents raised him in the best possible way curtailing all their personal needs and desires.Now in their old age , who else but their own sons and daughters will take care of them ?
2007-11-18 00:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mess. If I understand it, this money is either savings for his son (for college) or the son is living with his grandmother while you're overseas. In any case, the money is for the CHILD's welfare, not free money for grandma. Her husband needs to be told, and this spoiled compulsive spender needs to stop. I'd close the account, and just send her a money order or wire her money whenever you need her to send you something. She has proven she's not responsible.
2007-11-17 10:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels obligated to help them out....that's really not the worst thing in the world. He's kind and generous and probably feels guilty. Now on top of feeling guilty, he's being nagged and hounded by you. I don't envy him regardless if you are right or not, it's not always about being right.
My husband spends money that I don't agree with, but then I spend money on things he thinks are silly or unecessary, is it really any different?
2007-11-17 10:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not right for your mother-in-law to spend this money...however if she is raising his son she is entitled to money to cover his basic needs...if it is causing a big problem in your marriage perhaps you should tell your husband that you need to see a counselor and get another persons perspective on the issue...good luck
2007-11-17 10:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look at it this way: As long as your needs and your children needs are being taken care of then I would let it go.
Whoever if they are not taken care of then husband would have a problem with me.
2007-11-17 10:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋