about it and shout back, because of the outrage at the way people are treating me, they turn it back around on me like im the baddie, and that its me mispercieving it all wrong because i have borderline personality disorder?
so in everyway they use my illness against me...use it to their advantage.
ive experienced abuse bullying, victimization all the way through my life.
ive had long term psychological problems because of my past and months ago was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.
ive experienced aloofness, dismissiveness, abrupt, patronizing behaviour from doctors at my surgery, i filed a complaint and had to leave the surgery to get a new doctor.
they filed in my notes that it was me who was argumentitive and who had an outburst when i never.
so theres an example of my disorder being turned around against me...
im worried it will give people the green light to psychologically abuse me, then when i get upset, its turned around on me like its my fault
2007-11-17 08:45:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
and that its me mispercieving things when im not.
sure i know i can, but i also no when people are
treating me unfare and singling me out to.
im 30 now and people have been bad to me most of my life
2007-11-17 08:45:51 · update #1
There is rarely a person who is not insensitive from time to time. Were all human and fallibility is a human quality which does not change no matter how much we judge it.
I have come to find that when I judge others, or others judge me, we are not seeing the person or the situation completely accurately.
The way to overcome judgmentalism is not through trying to change other people-thats hardly possible. The way to overcome it is to learn not to take it personally. To see it as the result of faulty reasoning. To do this one needs to acquire a basic understanding of human psychology in order to make sense of ones inner experience, as well as the inner experience of others. This can be acheived with the help of a good therapist, although I have found books very helpful in this endeavour. Of course this is a learning process which Im still on.
Consider the idea that there is still more to learn about people and about yourself. I have found that the more I learn and understand where people are coming from, the less frustrated I am by their behaviour and I can actually feel some compassion for them. After all, we are all suffering in some way.
2007-11-17 09:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Idk but i have depression and anxiety disorders. im in my 30s and have been suffering since i can remember...but was untreated for years. I may feel negative anbout myself at times... i know depression - trust me... But i never heard some1 talk about theselves the way u do about urself! If i sound like that - Omg! im srry! The world isnt out to get u. Ppl arent always fair - life isnt fair. All u got to worry about is u... happiness or contentment even - within !
U will find it. Just when u feel as if u cant take anymore. Do just that. Give up. Dnt fight anymore - let everyhting ride... let it go... let all responsibilities stop. Simplicity is key here.
Goood Luck!=)
2007-11-17 16:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure one of your therapists must have said something about not owning what people say to or about you. People are going to treat others badly. It's what we do with that treatment that makes the difference. We dont have to accept it. If we do, then it is partly our fault. Have you tried telling all of those people that just because they say it-doesnt make it a fact. It took me years to learn to do this with my ex-husband. He never stopped trying to demean me. When I turned around and told him it was just his opinion, it put the hurt back on him. Give it a try. Couldnt hurt.
2007-11-17 17:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by phlada64 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Several of the people who are here can say they have experienced most if not all of what you have. You don't see them here ask what to do, they do what they have to survive. You live life or you die, you know I know what am talking about. We've had this conversation before.
2007-11-17 18:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have too much anger from the past and held in negative feelings that you need to resolve, if you don't you will always be acting angry and people will stay away from you.
And you should shave your beard.
2007-11-17 18:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋