Our daughter is a brides maid,all of the other girls are wearing pantyhose,but our daughter says they are not part of her style and is asking me to speak to mom on her behalf. Personally, I don't see the big deal,but I am not a seventeen year old girl, any advice?
2007-11-17 08:32:07 · 30 answers · asked by clay buckeye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well im a 17 yr old girl, maybe i can help. if all the other girls are wearing pantyhose, your daughter probably should too. its formal and respectful, and like you said, not a big deal. you might want to explain to her that wedding attire isnt a part of anyone's typical style, but one should dress up out of respect, especially if shes an active part of the reception.
2007-11-17 08:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by li 4 · 15⤊ 1⤋
Ask your daughter if the Bridesmaid's dress she has to wear is "part of her style". Wedding attire usually isn't. It's a special day and it's the Bride's day.
Ask her to imagine how she would feel if she were the bride and one of her wedding party was making a stink over something as simple as pantyhose. If she is good enough friends with the Bride to be a part of her wedding, she will do everything in her power to take some of the stress off of the Bride rather than adding to it.
And she truly doesn't want a bridezilla on her hands over a littl thing like pantyhose.
I know how these things go. I'm a Photographer and Wedding Consultant for South Padre Island, TX. I've dealt with enough brides to know.
2007-11-17 09:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by alice_mayo 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The daughter is wrong. Unfortunatley some brides still insist on having bridesmaids look like clones. I would not have a problem if one of my bridesmaids chose to skip the pantyhose....but it's not my wedding.
When your daughter accepted being a bridesmaid she also accepted that she would be dressed in the BRIDE'S style. Not hers. She needs to grow up. She can always take them off during the reception.
2007-11-17 08:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
You communicate lots approximately what you opt for, yet in no way what she needs. Have your asked her why she won't placed on them. in line with probability they are merely uncomfortable for her, or maybe she observed Uncle Fred strolling around in a pair while she became a toddler and it traumatized her? Do you adore her or pantyhose? She might have some vanity subject concerns and thinks which you particularly opt for her to placed on pantyhose by using fact she isn't beautiful sufficient devoid of them? the factor i'm attempting to make is which you're able to desire to talk together with her, not a team of people on yahoo who're going to furnish you idiotic advice like "unload her and locate somebody who will."
2016-09-29 10:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by melesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, part of agreeing to be a bridesmaid is basically that you're supposed to wear what you're told to wear. If I objected to the outfits I have worn as a bridesmaid based on the fact that they did not match my style, I would never have been able to be part of a wedding! Pantyhose is NOTHING compared to the outfits I had to wear back in the 80's when my friends were getting married. And of course they all did the same for me.
Back your wife up and tell your daughter to get over herself and wear the pantyhose. It isn't about her!
2007-11-17 08:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 9⤊ 2⤋
We should all be so lucky that the worst part of the bridesmaid dress is wearing pantyhose. I've seen my share of ugly bridesmaid dresses. They're pantyhose, as long as they're not what my friend calls, the grandma pantyhose (fully support) no one will even notice or care that she's wearing them. It's for a day, she'll live.
2007-11-17 09:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by Natalie 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Ask the bride. It is her day, thus it is her decision. When your daughter accepted the honor of being a bridesmaid, she also accepted the responsibility that comes with it, and that often equates to doing things or wearings things she doesn't like. Not to get personal, but I don't like that your daughter thought she could make you an ally against your wife, and her mother. That's wrong.
2007-11-17 09:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by LunaRossa 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter should wear hose with her dress. This isn't prom, this isn't a homecoming dance, it's someone's wedding. If all the other bridesmaids are wearing hose, and especially if their dresses are not floor length, then she needs to be wearing hose. Believe it or not, bare skin does not photograph well, and it will show in the photos of the wedding party. If the bride has asked your wife to have your daughter wear hose, then your daughter simply needs to suck it up and wear them for a few hours to make the bride happy.
2007-11-17 08:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
If the bride requests the bridesmaids to wear pantyhose, she needs to wear pantyhose. But even more importantly - since your wife has already made her decision, I think it would be wise to not show your daughter that all she has to do is complain to daddy to get him to change mommy's decision. There needs to be some solidarity... Your daughter needs to suck it up and listen to what her mother told her.
2007-11-18 02:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You need to ask the bride. It doesn't matter who is wearing what on their legs unless the bride is stating that it's part of the dress attire. Personally, I hate the damn things too so I can't blame her. But since she is a bridesmaid it's up to the bride.
Good luck to you and your daughter.
2007-11-17 11:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Just Want To B Me 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋