I've been dating my b/f for 9 months and we've had our shares of ups and downs. Right now I feel like I'm not sure of what I want, I need time, or maybe I don't really love him or feel like I use to before with him. My family doesn't like him for me. Yesterday he was saying that my family is materialistic, I won't find someone that will truly love me like he does, I can't buy love with money, I don't have time for him, I don't try to make things work between us and that he feels indifferent if I cheat on him or not it won't he wouldn't be surprised. You know things like that. He wanted me to go out dinner with his grandparents so I could meet them. I couldn't at first but I ended up going. When I said I couldn't he kept talking alot of the crap I mentioned above. As soon as I said I was going, he started being all sweet saying I love you and blowing kisses over the phone. I was like what the hell? Is he manipulating me? Just so he could have his way with me all the time? Some advice! =
2007-11-17 07:29:14 · 8 answers · asked by Chula Bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he wants his way. be carefull, for bad suff might happen. If u want to avoid this, just dump him. there are guys out there who will treat you better
2007-11-17 07:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yeah he manipulates you, at least on some occasions, but then again most people try to coerce others to try to get their own way so I wouldn't necessarily demonize him for that. The deeper issue is, you two don't seem to be particularly well-suited to each other at this moment. So the real question is, are you inclined to want to fix it, or would you rather just let the relationship go? (Before you answer, realize that ambivalence about your feelings for someone is normal and doesn't necessarily mean it's time to call it quits, but it IS an invitation to further evaluation.) Try to separate your opinions from those of folks around you, then answer the questions honestly to yourself. Good luck in the decision-making process.
2007-11-17 15:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is manipulative. Otherwise, he would try to understand your feelings and not say derogatory things about you and your family when he doesn't get his way. He would also wait until you were more comfortable meeting his grandparents or anyone else he knows. If you are unsure of your feelings for him, then go with those feelings and spend more time with your other friends.
2007-11-17 15:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Darke Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! He is being manupulative, if he believes that you would cheat onhim, then that means that he don't trust you, and if he don't trust you then what is the pijnt of being with himany longer? You are only going to feel stuck and afraid of telling him how you feel, because he is only going to keep knocking you down so he can feel superior. You family is right he is not good for you, move on and find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. Does he suffer from bipolar? Cause it sounds like ti.
2007-11-17 15:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by mysticbaby420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being a Klingon and is acting really clingy, he's not manipulative, but you're probably his first love, but let him know that his first love isn't always his only love.
If you're feeling like you need your space, you should break up and give him some time and let him see other people before he thinks you're the only one for him.
2007-11-17 15:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Confused Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he definitely has control issues, you shouldnt let anyone treat you like that. especially when he says he would be surprised if you cheated on him, then hes trying to make you feel guilty so you'll do anything for him. time to let this guy go toy with someone else
2007-11-17 15:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is. Dump him.
2007-11-17 15:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
K
2007-11-17 15:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mikala 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋