need opinions on my relationship?

Question

So heres a little background on my fiance and me: We have been dating since highschool(I was a soph, he was a senior) so its been 5 almost 6 years now. Back than we were young so all we did was go to the mall and movies. We didnt drink and things like that but Now were both in college, and he loves to go out. He goes to the bars or drinking at his friends about 3 or 4 times a week. I don't really like going out that much, maybe once a week. Well anyways I completley trust him, and I highly doubt he'd cheat. But it really has started to annoy me that he always wants to go out, even if I dont. He keeps talking about when we get married, and how he wont go out anymore and blah blah blah. Well I think whats a piece of paper(marriage certificate), going to change. Do you all think hes lying or what?

Answer 1

He's already cheating on you with his purpose and his time, by well frankly not having one or spending his time helping you and him get closer. As far as lieing goes, the mans not living a deep enough exsistence to even SEE that he would be lieing about that, so your giving him to much credit. Basically your both suffering from the fact that or atleast he is, unpurposeless, your both lost, no really big driving force behind your lives. Typically religion help'd ALOT with this, but we need more now, so theirs more responsibility on the individual to find their own path. So pretty much your both stuck in the "still looking for meaning in our lives" phase of life, so no REAL telling which way this is going to go. Espacailly since he is partying, that means he's starting to get the idea life is suppose to be "light and happy" which is actually counter to the truth, life is a fight, its a struggle, so really I'd almost bet that this relationship is going to end after the marriage because your still going to fight for him, because of ALL that history, even longer if you have kids. But sometime in the future, you'll be by yourself, looking down at the floor, wondering were you went wrong. Forgetting how brutal honesty tried to tell you he has no purpose and doesn't care for a purpose outside of something "light and happy" and you should of left the guy, or tried to get him to fight for meaning in his life. But don't worry! Because you could go on the internet, watch oprah, or read the newspaper and see plenty of others this happen to, sorry such is the world..... you can fix it if you fight, but if you just sit their patiently, well your doing the same thing as everyone else, so don't expect things to go any different...... but this is a classic problem.... the fix, well not so classical.... good luck!