I don't know if I'm asking too much but I don't think I see my boyfriend enough. We've been dating for 3 months and we go to the same college. He commutes but, most of the time, he drives home as soon as classes are over. We usually watch a movie at my apartment maybe once a week (we haven't gone on a real date since we had just began dating). I offer to drive to his house but that usually turns into me driving to his FRIEND's house to watch them all play videogames. Hell, I spent my birthday doing just that! It's so frustrating because I care about him a lot, yet, I feel as though he doesn't want to put any effort forward. Sometimes, I go the whole day without even talking to him except a text saying I'm going to sleep. I've told him about this on multiple occasions but he usually says "i'm sorry" and that he doesn't want me to feel like this. I honestly don't think he knows WHY he's apologizing. All I want is some alone time with my honey. So do you guys think I'm being irration?
2007-11-17 06:42:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, this is somthing lol but ill help you out
Okay for one communication is key, i know its a lame term but its true, dont just nag to him or anythign but have a conversation about it, see what he thinks, ask him what he wants out of this relationship. Also you should NEVER spend yoru birthday doing somehting thats not for you, that part i think he f*ed up on, other then that some people are just different in how they view a relationship and talkign about it is the best way to find a common ground. Hes gonna want time to himself and time with his friends, but he should also have time for you because thats what it all about. I hope you two work this thing out and i dont knwo the guy so i wont pass judgement but when ever a relationship becomes oen sided then thats when it either needs to change or discontinue, i dont think your expecting too much, but just going about it the wrong way. I hope i helped you and good luck hun! :)
2007-11-17 06:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe 2 him you are being an irration 2 him. But why not try 2 show him what he's doing 2 you and let him know how it feels. He might just start 2 want you 2 listen 2 him and start 2 feel the same way you sometimes feel. Better yet why don't you start 2 hang around him and his friends more and act like one of the guys. But once in a while he should spend a little of time with you. Sometimes my boyfriend does that 2 me, and 2 get back at him I'll just start 2 hang around my friends more than I'll hang out with him and his friends more and that's when he'll realize 2 start paying more attention 2 me.
2007-11-17 06:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by jamira_ rbts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can be just as "needy and demanding" as what women are; however in your case, you are not being irrational, selfish needy or demanding. You are asking for honesty and openness which is something that both genders deserve and you are not receiving.
If you have never been to his home, I would be questioning that. I don't want to appear to be negative towards you; but, if it is only your home that the two of you are going to, then, it seems that he could be hiding something - like a live-in girlfriend or wife.
Do you have his home phone number or are your conversations only on a cell phone?
Rule of thumb: if you are having questions and doubts about your relationship, there is probably reason for them.
If your boyfriend will not or cannot give you any straight answers, Sweetie, move on with your life. There are decent guys out there who will treat you with respect and honesty.
Sometimes, we have to kiss a lot of toads to find our Prince Charming and yes, they do exist.
2007-11-17 06:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by Resident Insomniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being irrational, its natural to feel that way.. but he maybe doesn't feel the same way so u need to find some other interests so your not always pining for him, and next time dont go to his friends house, tell him u want alone time with him u want to see him not his mates. Make him take you out at least once a month he sounds a bit immature.
2007-11-17 06:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if when u get the chance to see him all he does is play games... I dont think he is into u. You should talk to him and explain what he's doing to you. You should try to make him understand that you wanna spend time with you. You're not with him every day. So wanting to be with him is just normal... Remember this is my opinion and I dont know you're boyfriends personality, so I cant tell you why he is doing this. At least in my case I would wanna spend time with you and maybe go out somewhere. If money and distance was a concern I would at least take the bus to you're apartment and rent a movie and watch it with you. Remember this is just my opinion but talk to him and get an asnwer from him. Maybe he is not all that into you...
2007-11-17 06:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by 9ball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah you're not. The beginning of a relationship should be wonderful, you know that can't stop thinking about each other and butterflies in the stomach feeling. You deserve that much. Ask him what's going on and if he refuses to try or at least tell you how he feels then you need to find someone willing to make an effort.
2007-11-17 06:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by KungFu Ninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's being irrational, no guy in the right mind would play video games everyday rather than spend it with a girl he loves/likes let alone do that on the girl's birthday.
Don't control his life, but tell him that if he honestly thinks playing games and doing other mindless things is more important than you, then perhaps, you're just not worth his time.
2007-11-17 06:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Confused Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not asking too much of this guy to take you out on a date, thats what he should be doing. especially if you've told him that you want to go on a real date and not just sit around watching him play video games. this guy really doesnt seem to care all that much about this relationship so if he doesnt put any effort into it you might just want to kick him to the curb.
2007-11-17 06:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Girl here) Okay look i feel the same way. I kinda got over it we ended up braking up. he didn want to put as much effort he just wasnt ready and when i did tell him he didn't care so i moved on and found some one else who cares......my friend maybe you arnt ready for the dating thing. post pon dating till u and him are ready remember you all arent married. but hey your frienda care alot more about you then guyd just slow it down a little bit and just wait till your out of collage. Pluss you only want his attion and there is nothing wrong with that girls dont ask for much we just want them to spread the love and speed time with ther girl!!!!!
2007-11-17 06:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOO ! not at all. i dont know from a guys perspective of a view but what hes doing is unfair to you. definetly spending your birthday watching your boyfriend play video games is upsetting. he should realize the fact that you are actually there. i believe guys should be the one thats romantic, cute, funny, etc. to pleasure the girls and from what i hear, he isnt. you should tell him that you are upset. and only texting him once a day is very sad. he should be the one calling you up. you are giving him too much and hes giving you too little.
2007-11-17 06:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by jz limmers ;] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋