Im really worried. my friends dad is an alcoholic. He drinks every single night and gets really drunk but wont admit he has a problem. Im worried something bad might haen. What can i do or what can sh do??
2007-11-17 06:39:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
it's almost impossible to help an alcoholic, it's one of those situations where the cliche about wanting to help themselves is true.
maybe it will take something bad to happen for them to admit they have a problem
2007-11-17 06:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I speak here from experience. There is nothing you or your friend can do to help an alcoholic. An alcoholic can, if they want to, get their drinking under control but it is extremely hard work. The first thing is that the alcoholic must acknowledge that they have a problem and need help. There is sadly no cure. An alcoholic is always just one drink away from reverting. Incidentally just because your friend's father drinks every night that does not mean he is an alcoholic.
2007-11-18 01:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question really concerns me - has he shown violent or inappropriate tendencies? You are so on the money to be concerned - not only for him, but for your friend, as this is not a healthy environment to be living in. He has obviously done something that has sent you here to ask this question. How old are you and who can you speak with about this? I would get another adult involved. You have to trust your intuition and understand that this can be a very dangerous situation - especially because he is not aware that there is even a problem. If you feel that your friend is in danger or will be put in a compromising position, you need to speak with another adult or authority figure to share your concerns. Do not let this situation escalate into something worse...be strong.
2007-11-17 06:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by samantha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it must be hard to watch your friend go through what she's going through. Unfortunately there is nothing she can do for him because he has to WANT the help in order to change, and he can even admit he has a problem. She needs to look into finding Al_Anon meetings in her area. That's like Alcoholics Anonymous for the loved ones with the problem. It will give her a place to vent her feelings and talk about her situation with others that are going through the same thing. You may even be able to join her, so she doesn't have to go alone. There are meetings everywhere.
2007-11-17 06:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely attend al-anon and suggest your friend attend. There is nothing she can do about his drinking, but she can focus on herself and on healing and creating hope. The meetings are a very safe place to share experience strength and hope. She should attend 6 different meetings before she decides if the program is for her. The program is based on the 12 steps of AA and they are very helpful. It is a spiritual but not a religious program. Also there is a lot of literature for families and adult children of alcoholics available too. Good luck.
2007-11-17 06:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he can get help is he has to admit to himself that he has a problem. Then has got to commit to the process of getting with and staying with a program to help him. There is nothing an outsider can do.
2007-11-17 07:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can contact Alcoholics Anonymous who will give her support. There is nothing she can do alone to stop her dad drinking, its really a complex thing and not something she should try dealing with alone. If she ever feels like she is in real physical danger from him, she should get out and come to your house, and tell your parents.
2007-11-17 06:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You mind your business! That's what you should do...
From our fundamental human rights it can be inferred that the man has a right to be drunk. Yes, we can all be worried that he'll hurt your friend but that is only speculation, you'll have to prove it.
2007-11-17 08:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by Chacha 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is really your friend's place to ask this question--not yours. I suspect jealousy might be where you really are coming from. They were father and daughter long before you came along. You can express your concern to your friend. Anything more is up to her.
2007-11-19 02:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by richard d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is not much you can do try get him to contact acholicics anoymus if not his doctor my dad was alcoholic now he is dead he would not accept it that was 18 years ago now they have things to help hope it all goes well
2007-11-17 06:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by starlight 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋