My twin sister and I are 22...we both live at home and sometimes I think our relationship is too close and intimate. We are inseparable and sometimes I feel like I can't breathe. Can anyone relate to this? We are also really competitive and compare ourselves all the time. It's really exhausting!
2007-11-17 06:12:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If it's bothering you then it's a problem. Focus on finding activities to do on your own. When the urge to compete strikes you distract yourself with one of those activities. Be sure to take time alone and get a breather.
2007-11-17 06:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a set of mirror-image twins that are 20, they live there lives separately now, but when they are home they are inseparable. Sometimes it's good to be inseparable, but there are times you just need to let go. If you feel like you can't breathe then maybe it's time that you starting doing somethings without each other. The bond will still be there even if you don't spend every moment together. Both of mine have joined different branches of the military and still manage to communicate with each other. They spend time together when they are both home and the time is even more special for them now that they are not together all the time. When they were in school everything was a competition to them, I figure it was because they had to try and prove that they were two individuals, now everything is not a competition. Try to slowly ease the idea to your twin that maybe you need to explore other situations. Since you are 22 why not find an apartment or something, go away to college anything like that.
2007-11-17 06:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by bubbas mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual for identical twins to be as close as you and your sister are. If you feel it's exhausting and is smothering you there's no reason you can't find some way to show your individuality. Have you talked to your sister about this and does she feel the same way you do? You may be surprised that she does. Think about which part is the most exhausting and just find ways to do things differently. Don't be afraid to be you. Even though you're identical twins you are still each very unique in your own way. Just find that uniqueness and polish it up so it shows through.
2007-11-17 06:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're not sexually close then it's fine.
We all look at ourselves in the mirror and wish we could be someone else, and I guess that you look at your identical twin like she's a mirror, and see what you'd want to change.
Not many people are as lucky as you. I don't think it's unhealthy, I think it's perfectly fine.
2007-11-17 06:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Gnotknormal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is not comfortable to you, someone needs to put some distance between the two of you. It looks like it's up to you to move out and spend more time being independent. You can always be close but don't let it choke the life out of you.
2007-11-17 06:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow just a little creepy but sometimes its good to be close and you should both try activities without each other get different interests
2007-11-17 06:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Manda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds unhealthy for you. "too intimate", "can't breathe", "inseperable", "exhausting".
Just listen to yourself and do what you need to do.
2007-11-17 06:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have twins and they are very close..As long as it doesn't bother you..if it does discuss it with her...
2007-11-17 06:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by jalady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah you guys need to have you OWN life
2007-11-17 06:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by dubblondy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tap her and ul b fine =)
2007-11-17 06:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋