We teach them the basics on religion because they are so young. We will let them decide later. Anyway, my question is, how can I make christmas extra special for him this year? Is there something I can do or buy for him to acknowledge ramadan a little late?
2007-11-17 06:00:09 · 13 answers · asked by justmyopinion 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
ok, I am not muslim. I made a mistake, imeant EID. sorry. and notice i said a little late.
2007-11-17 06:35:11 · update #1
I didn't realize that I would be criticized for asking this question. I never said we didn't acnowledge Ramadan. I just wanted to know if there was a special something we could do as a family because he doesn't live close to his side to celebrate with them and i am not aware of the things that are done to celebrate.
2007-11-17 06:39:06 · update #2
MY husband celebrates the gift giving part of christmas. thats all. and he did that even before i came along. He has never spoke about the specifics of Eid nor does he go to worship more than twice a year. This is not my fault. ANd I can choose to bring my children up as I wish. THey are not dammed because they arent muslims. And niether is he. We believe in the same god.
2007-11-17 09:39:27 · update #3
You are talking about your husband right?
Did he observe Ramadan? Is there a muslim community in your area? a mosque perhabs?...You could all go together to Eid prayer on the morning of Eid.
Get him this book "Raheeq Makhtoum" in Engilsh as Eid Gift He is going to love it. you can find it on amazon.com or soundvision.com.
The best thing you could do for him though is studying islam yourself, and celebrating his holidays too with him.
2007-11-17 06:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Islam4Life 4 · 10⤊ 2⤋
Okay, I just have the question of Why would you only celebrate Christmas on time and delay his Religious Holiday? I think that the best thing you can do is learn about Ramadan and both Eids and think about your husband being so far away from home and not being able to enjoy a great time with his family there or here since you are delaying it for somereason.
I know that this is late now, but the best gift besides learning how special Ramadan and Eid are to us, would be to throw him a great Feast and have a great family day with him, invite some friends............Maybe Next Eid, the bigger one ;)
2007-11-17 08:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Well, as the father is Muslim the children are supposed to be raised as Muslims too. (Of course when one is an adult they can decided what they do or don't follow) but it is a responsibility on him to raise them as Muslims. He is only allowed to marry a non-Muslim if it is agreed that they will be raised as Muslims. It's sad that you didn't think of Eid for him until Christmas time comes. You already have children, even if they are young, how many years has this gone on for?? It doesn't matter if he is far from his family or not. There are mosques where he can go with the children during Ramadan and for Eid too. Many times they have special rides and things for the kids. It's so sad that they are growing up seeing how fun Christmas can be but know nothing about Eid. All during Ramadan there is the fast and prayers and reading Quran, breaking the fast together and giving extra charity and time to faith and to GOD -- that's a whole month!! Eid is just the completion, it doesn't have as much meaning without the practice of Ramadan!!!! You can give gifts on Eid too but it is not meant to be as materialistic as Christmas has become. There is the second Eid too, you need to find a farm where a lamb can be slaughtered and you can cook several kinds of food with the lamb. Give some of it to charity too if you want or don't think you will eat it all. Find the local mosque and have him take his kids there on Eid day.
Best wishes for your family...
2007-11-17 08:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sassafrass 6 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Well its the fathers responsibility to guide his children in Islam. Why would you not have acknowledged Ramadan for your children at the time? Strange.
Did your husband not celebrate Eid? How could you have not noticed?
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Sorry if you felt i was criticizing but Ramadan and Eid are long gone. Why acknowledge them now and not at the time? I'm sorry but as a Muslim i cannot be a hypocrite and advice on gifts for a religious celebration for Muslim children when they are not supposed to be celebrating such events. We don't celebrate the birth of Muhammad either and that is for a specific reason the same goes for the prophet Jesus.
Next Eid you can give children gifts of new clothes, money, sweets etc. Eid alfitr is a celebration of the end of Ramadan and food, which plays a major part in that day hense the sweets etc and inviting others to your home to share in the food. I find it confusing because why not do it then why now?
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Your children are muslim all children are. I think you should really have a talk with your husband and ask him to explain a few of the simple teachings of Islam. Yes you are free to raise your children how you like. But please ask your husband what the role of a muslim father is and what all children are in Gods eyes. We dont pick and choose the rules of our faith what God has revealed for us is not for us to pick and choose we are only trying to give you some of the basics we dont make them God does. No point in being mad at us for giving you honest answers. It seems odd that your husband would not have explained these simple facts to you. The intention is not to anger you but to answer the asked question if you like the answer or not is two different things but followers of Islam dont bend the rules to fit them, we bend ourselves to suit Islam. I'm genuinly sorry if you have been upset its not my intention to do that nor do i think of anyone here. I hope you have a Merry Christmas and you enjoy your religious holiday. Peace to you.
2007-11-17 06:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 4⤋
First off it is harram for Muslims to celebrate any holidays that are not Islamic. The only holidays celebrated in Islam are Eid Al Fitr and Eid Al Adha. His children should be raised Muslim as he is the father and children take the religion of their father. It is not hala for you their mother to teach them about your religion. The Bible says you will not be unequally yoked.
2007-11-17 08:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by wolfkarew 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Sorry others made you feel bad.. There is nothing wrong with a Muslim learning about other religions. In Islam your husband should have a strong deen before he studies other religions.. Both of these religions are based Ibrahamic Ideologies. So this second Eid is about Ibraheem(PBUH) when he was going to sacrifice his son, in Islam we sacrifice a lamb(or other meat) during EID..Then the family would have a gathering and eat one third of the sheep and one thrid for another family member and one third should be donated to the poor...This is all for Allah(SWT)...
The problem with Christmas is that for your husband to celebrate it would be haraam because Muslims do not believe in trinity or celebrating Jesus(PBUH) like he is divine..
I have to say you should not encourage your husband to celebrate Christmas if you love and respect him. But for EID a nice dinner, after giving the one third to a family and one third of the meat to someone who is needy would be great.
2007-11-17 07:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by je 6 · 13⤊ 2⤋
i shall not question ur marriage.. coz it would be a whole new issue.. hahahha.. well, i understand wat u're trying to do.. tt's very sweet of u.. mebbe u should try to welcome the Aidiladha instead?? it's coming somewhere around 19-20 december.. i'm not sure.. in singapore it's 20th december..
Coz my frens always have this inter racial issue.. i always suggest the first for them would be..
On the special day of Aidiladha, wear our baju kurung or traditional clothes and to make it even wonderful, for me that is, SAME COLOUR!!!
Actually if u ask me about ramadan (aka aidilfitri) i could give u more ideas.. if ur husband is not going for the clothes thingy, then mebbe i suggest some kuehs (cookies)??
2007-11-17 07:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by iLa_7 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
do not feel sorry.as i know that you married to a human ,never mind he born in muslim family.born in any family does not making you a muslim chris or any other.you are the one who has the right to choose your way of life.those peoples who are thinking that born in certain religion or any thing else make the child the same .not at all.you have your own body your on brain and your own choices and God is ex histing in you the same way as in others .so pls use your own intlactual(wisdom) and choose the way of life acording to that. give your best to your kids you can as well as to yuor husband.if he is nerrow minded then let him as he is and proceede to yuor on goal to achieve the best you can .just remember these religions have nothing to do with God .these are only directions to die as a good humen.thanks.
2007-11-17 07:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
DO not try to make Christmas special for him... Make his EId special by learning about Eid and Islam..
2007-11-17 08:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by sara 2 · 11⤊ 2⤋
Ramadan was over in October. It isn 't about giving but giving up your bad habits and cleansing your body.
2007-11-17 06:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by julie_cano2007 2 · 14⤊ 2⤋