We have been together over two years now. I go 2 university and I still make time 2 c him but he on the other hand acts like he is so busy when I know he is not! The only time I feel he is interested in doing something is when he comes over 2 my house 4 sex! Could he really be using me 4 sex 4 these 2 years? We have hardly done anything together last year we even did more than this year! He promises to me that he will take me out but then when the day comes he does not! I dont know why he is doing this can anyone help?
2007-11-17 05:52:38 · 46 answers · asked by Miss T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I spoke to him today and he promised to change his ways. he said he would see me today after he has finished everything he wants to do first being the gym going home dinner and then eventually I would come into being late evening after 8pm. I always seem to come last. I dont know what to do???
2007-11-19 06:39:42 · update #1
He's using you for sex. Why are you letting him treat you like a lady of the evening? Dump him and move on.
2007-11-17 05:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sturm und Drang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your question. He goes off to who knows where prowling about for whatever until he needs his sex-fix, and guess what? Your it. When he gets his "thirst" quenched he goes back out again until he gets "thirsty" again. A dog is a better companion than this.
In other words, as this relationship or entanglement progressed he has become less and less interested in you as a person and is only concerned with you in-so-far as [you] being the means of getting his sexual release of fix whenever he so desires it.
The bottom line is, how long are you going to tolerate this behavior from this despicable piece of rubbish? You're a really good person with a lot of wonderful things to offer and you do deserve so much more than just being the object for the gratification of frustrated pent-up sexual desires . I don't mean to sound crude or disrespectful to you, but there is an old saying, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free."
Please darling, stop giving it away and don't settle for anything less than a worthwhile partner who honestly cares about you as a person.
2007-11-17 06:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's doing this because he is a man. next time he promises to take you somewhere, get a few details, like when? and where? then when he falls threw, tell him you are still going, because he got your hopes up and you really want to go. even if it means by yourself. i am not a big fan of cutting off the sex to prove a point. that always hurts you too. so it is best to ask him about it. after 2 years together, you should be able to talk to him about anything. if not, then maybe you are growing apart, and the sex is the thing you both still like to do. if you want more, ask for more. if you don't get it, tell him it's been fun, it's been real, but it ain't been real fun. bye bye
2007-11-17 06:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by old bitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes sounds like alot of guys I know and have dated. First off when he comes over dont give in so easy to his"charms" as we will put it. If hes just about the sex he needs to take a hike but thats just one persons opinion. I had a few guys like that I didnt stay with them long. There is alot more to life and love then sex some guys just dont get that which is sad. If you really like the guy to talk if over with him go for it he might just surprise you...or he could whine and pout like a lil boy .. they are really good at that specially when the "LOVE" is in jeopardy. Hell my hubby does it sometimes I just hand him my daughters pacifier and tell him to take a hike..lol he stops right quick and apologizes. Think it over really good before you make a move though but in the end you know you will make the right one. Good luck hun
2007-11-17 06:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Haven_Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of sounds like the relationship I have with my boyfriend. I would just break up with him and move on. Of course it's easier said than done, and I really should take my own advice as well. If your just having sex and nothing else, it doesn't really seem worth it to stay with him. Maybe you should confront him and talk to him about it. Maybe he feels the same? Either way, you need to figure it out before 5 years go by and nothing happens. That's what happened to me...now I'm sort of stuck. Long story, anyway, good luck to you and don't let what happened to me, happen to you!
2007-11-17 05:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a serious talk with him and see what is going on. After 2 years together you should feel easy chatting so give him some ultimatums, if he won't pay you more attention and take you out go and have fun with uni mates. You never know you may enjoy their company better than your boyfriends
I hope everything is ok and you don't get hurt
2007-11-17 05:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by lucassfred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sex is all he wants from you, not a relationship. If you allow him to continue treating you this way and get away with it, then he will not change. If you want to push the issue and risk losing him, then give him a choice....taking you out, or no sex. If he really likes you for you, then he probably will take you out. If he is only using you for sex, then he will probably bolt. You have to decide if you are willing to do this or not. Can you stand this treatment until he tires of you eventually or are you strong enough to stand up for yourself?
Good luck to you!
2007-11-17 05:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Angiej1213 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's going through financial hardships. Instead of asking why he doesn't take you out, why not just force him to go out with you.
Next time he comes over, let the first thing you tell him be "We're going to the mall" or "Lets go jogging" or "Lets go hiking" -- Show him that there are things you want to do with him, aside making love - and let him experience these things.
Take control of the situation, so he feels obligated to do these things as a man. Taking control away from him, will make him want to be responsible for having such fun times.
Also, submitting to his desire for only sex isn't going to help. Tell him "Lets go do something instead" -- Pretend to be on your period, and if he doesn't want to do anything -- then something is wrong.
Good luck though!
2007-11-17 05:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey - this guy sounds like a user. What you must do, is not be so allowing. If it were me, I would confront him because he clearly thinks that what he's doing is OK because you permit it.
Men are really basic people and women need to make clear boundaries of what they want to.
Should you not approach him - he will continue to treat you like a sex object?
Nip it in the bud, while you can.
2007-11-17 06:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a booty call. And you know it. He doesn't respect you and you have let him get away with it. Never let anyone treat you like that unless that is your choice. You obviously want more and he does not. Give him the boot and find yourself someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Don't waste ANY more time on him. Don't ask to be treated correctly. If you have to ask, he isn't worth it and booty callers will never be what you want.
2007-11-17 05:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋