is it wrong for me to spank my child with a belt or should i use my hand so i feel his pain?

Answer 1

It's not wrong, or illegal as long as your not leaving marks, and spanking only on the bottom.

However if your asking which you should use, I recommend only using your hand. A hand on a bare bottom, works just fine, just ask my 3.

Answer 2

It is wrong for you to spank your child at all! Spanking is evil, primitive, barbaric, inhumane, and outdated! Spanking is a brutal form of violence and it teaches kids that violence is acceptable! If you spank your child, he will grow up to be a violent criminal! Spanking is a form of sexual assault, because the buttocks are a sexual region! You are no better than other child molesters! Since spanking involves beating children on a private, sexual region of their bodies, it teaches them that their bodies- including their private and sexual areas- are not their own, but subject to the will of any adult! Parents who spank are setting their children up as the perfect targets for pedophiles! Since the buttocks are a sexual region, spanking children usually causes them to become spankign fetishists later in life! Their is absolutely no worse fate than becoming a spanking fetishist! Spanking also causes severe emotional damage! All children who are spanekd grow up to be depressed and to become addicted to alchohol, tobacco, and various illegal drugs! I can't believe so many parents still spank nowadays, when there's so much scientific research that proves it's harmful! You should treat you children with respect, instead of beating them into submission if they don't obey your every command, like you're doing now! Children are people, too, not just an underclass of sub-human slaves you can beat whenever you're frustrated with something! You should stop spanking your child! You need to give up the sadistic pleasure you get from beating a child, and start treating you child like a human being! If you keep spanking, i hope you go to prison!

Now i have a question for you: are you really a parent, or are you are childless spanking fetishist and /or pedophile who gets off on talking about spanking children?

Answer 3

We never use a belt that is wrong in my opinon and could cause marks and bruises and lots of anger from them on your part and then they learn to be scared of u,,, but we do spank with our hands when they get out of control and just 3 swats no more and no less... but it has to be a major misbehavement or it calls for a grounding off toys, tv, video games, and coloring books and crayons...

Answer 4

Using a belt is cruel and you can't judge how hard the child is really being hit. I think there are more effective ways of discipline, and when you involve objects like belts you aren't spanking, you are BEATING or WHOOPING your child.

Answer 5

Personally, if you use an object its because you're angry, and you shouldnt be spanking if you're angry.

Beyond that, if you use something other than your hand, how can you gauge how hard you're spanking? You just cant.

Spanking is a last resort when reason and routine fail, its about providing consequence, not fear and dread.

Answer 6

Hands were not made for hitting. I know how it feels to be spanked with a belt. Even if you hit them softly sometimes they still cry. You don't want to listen to the crying either.

Answer 7

ok. No, it is not good for you to use a belt or any other object and No, I don't think you should think of using your hand as 'feeling his pain' you use your hand to keep CPS out of your home because there will be no marks.

Answer 8

Never use objects. A simple swat or two on the bottom is a spanking.

... oh, you are asking this to stir up controversy, I see.

Answer 9

How sad that in this day and age with all the knowledge we have of the psychological damage done to children and the low self-esteem left, that you still choose you hit your child in order to discipline them. I highly recommend you do take some parenting classes or do some research about better ways of teaching good behavior to your child. If your need more information click my website below.

Answer 10

First off, your reason for thinking is FAR off wack. "Use your hand so you feel his pain" that's just really distorted thinking. You should never hit your child, because of your own anger issues. You need to stay calm whenever you feel the urge to beat your kid with any sort of weapon, and re-strategize your approach. Your supposed to love your child unconditionally, not want to make the kid feel pain or even suffer from some sort of psychological damage from being beat. You should talk with some sort of psychologist, because your reasoning behind using your hand is frightfull and dimented.