At every family gathering she gets drunk and insults me. I don't know how to deal with it and I'd rather not go at all.
2007-11-17 05:33:25 · 10 answers · asked by Your Mom 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Absolutely you do not have to go and if you have children I certainly hope you are NOT subjecting them to this as if this kind of behavior is acceptable because it's not. Just because someone is a relative does NOT mean you have to be around them, especially if they are abusive, addictive, unsafe and acting inappropriately. You owe it to yourself to be with people who are safe and healthy. You wouldn't be spending any time with someone like her if they weren't related, why should you if they are related? Go somewhere else or have your own day without her. She is toxic and unsafe. Good luck.
2007-11-17 08:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Krista, You DO NOT have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. If your husband does not understand just do your own thing. No one should expect someone that they love to put themselves in a situation that makes them unhappy. If it becomes to HUGE of an issue between you and your husband then compromise and take 2 vehicles so when/if she starts her drunken bullsh*t you can just go ahead and make a subtle disappearing act. No big scene & no arguing...JUST DISAPPEAR! Ya know? You know if whether or not you should even show up. If your parents, other family members or friends are having T-giving dinner then maybe you can just state your case to hubby. Tell that you understand his desire to be w/his mom, but that you can't do it this year!!! Tell him that the 2 of you will celebrate in private, at home ALONE Thanksgiving night and that YOU WILL SHOW HIM HOW THANKFUL(IN BED)YOU ARE TO HIM FOR BEING UNDERSTANDING OF YOUR FEELINGS. Good luck!!!!
2007-11-17 13:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband think? How bad are the insults? Does she forget the next day? How about going over and leaving before she gets drunk? Your husband expects you to put up with this behavior? Why isn't he defending you?
2007-11-17 14:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your sick and tired of being at the Thanksgiving dinner with her when she's drunk and all that crap, then don't go. It depends on how old you are. If your 17/ 19 yrs. then you have a right not 2 go.
2007-11-17 13:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your husband . This is an issue only between you and him. Tell him that if he is ok with you being insulted, then you wonder the worth of your marriage.
2007-11-17 14:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get through dinner and then if no one wants to do anything suggest a family movie trip, 8 dollars equals 2 hrs of quite, or get bombed yourself and state talking back lol
2007-11-17 13:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go! Suggest doing something different this year and if thats a no go invite them all to you, she may well behave herself in your house and you have the option to say something polite if she dosen't behave, it's your thanksgiving enjoy it!
2007-11-17 13:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks . Doesn't your husband know about this? Where's your famaily hun? Why don't you come on over to our house & leave the ol man.
2007-11-17 13:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Stormie Raincloud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess that we all at one time or another go thru our own little h*ll.
2007-11-17 14:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by 'Old & Cudley' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then don't go.
simple as that
2007-11-17 13:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by Klaudia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋