omg my cousin is getting on my last nervers. ok here is the story yesterday she was feeling really sad and sick and i tried to help her feel better and this morning when i talked to her she got all mad at me cause i wasnt kind of paying attention to her becasue im babysitting right now so i have to help my brothers and then she started explaining to me how if i talk to her i should pay attention to everything she says and now she is mad at me omg i wanna just idk im soo mad and now she is saying im a pissy person omg how can i tell her that she is kinda getting on my last nerves without being mean. if she says somthing else im going to explode omg help plz what do i do ?
2007-11-17 04:19:00 · 11 answers · asked by amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's great of you to try to help but as you are finding out it can be risky. People often aren't appreciative and since you happen to be standing in front of them at the time you make a nice target for the anger they are too immature to direct towards the actual source of their frustration. Very few people are truly 'assertive'. An often misused term which doesn't mean you just blow off your anger when it comes up, but instead 3 actually means that a person is able to express their anger appropriately and to the person who they are really mad at. You might tell your cousin that if she wants your support or advice then 1. she needs to stop treating you like you're the problem 2. she needs to take some responsibility for herself.
In taking the "mature" role you may be opening yourself to more hostility (people generally don't like it when you make them look immature by contrast), and creating a breach in your relationship with her. These may be necessary things if you truly want to be treated like the mature person you are.
2007-11-17 04:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by ptery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she an only child? If so she has no idea of the work that sitting can be with younger brothers. If she isn't an only child ,ask if she is ever very busy doing something and has a call at that time. Your sorry but you have to watch out for your brothers, or you would have been able to give her your full attention.If she gets lippy tell her she's a selfish person that only thinks of herself.
2007-11-17 12:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is not the only person in the world. You listened and you tried to help. And right now you are obligated with another task. And tell her she is stomping on your last nerve and she doesn't want to see you explode and .....puff up your cheeks.
Let her get mad ....it only hurts her and don' t let her have the power to affect you. You give her that power DON'T DO IT.
step back and relax and see how ridiculous she is.
2007-11-17 12:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is not the only person in the world, there are others who require your help and attention too. Tell her you care very much for her, but unfortunately she needs to grow up a bit and realize its not all about her.
2007-11-17 12:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are tired of her crap. Just kidding. Tell her you would like to sit and listen to her problems but you have responsibilities right now and can't. Also, if what she is whining about, is she trying to fix the problem or just wants to complain? Doesn't she have any friends? Good Luck. You have probably listened to her longer than I would have.
2007-11-17 12:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by doodlebug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, give her some time.
Maybe something's happened to her that you might not know of that she's keeping inside.
Or if you really dislike her, stay away from her and not talk to her too much.
*Always look for the best in others*
2007-11-17 12:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you need to cool off for a while and maybe you can talk later but that now is just not working for you. or just tell her the truth (what you wrote) in nicer words.
2007-11-17 12:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by HansonFan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb ur cus is feelin left out! but shes being a lil selfish too though.. u should tell her dat u need ur own space as she dose too.
2007-11-17 12:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant do it without being mean, u gotta put ur foot down whenn u have 2
2007-11-17 12:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Madie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her and tell her how you really feel.
Thats the best way.
2007-11-17 12:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by heartslikelaughter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋