What is wrong with you people? My daughter and snl are having a tizzy about their new baby sleeping in the same bed. It's a brand new kid and they want to stick him in another room! When I was a kid we had 2 parents and 4 kids in a 2 room house. We all shared a bedroom until we started moving out. Girls on on mattrice and boys on the other. And it was no big deal, everybody was poor as us. When my parents wanted some time alone they went in the bedroom alone for a while. When we started having boy or girl friends we snuck into the barn, car, field, woods, we got creative after a while. Anyway, why do you nuts think that parents and kids in the same room is wrong? Seeing parents nude or that they have sex is part of life. How do you think YOU got here?
2007-11-17 04:14:43 · 13 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ok, well i don't really think it's too weird.
2007-11-17 04:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by ipod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.... A few things...
1. The baby should be put in the other room, with a baby monitor next to mom or dad, or in a crib in the room with them. If the parents plan on having sex, spare the baby and put him/ or her in the other room. Come on, babies can remember crap like that. The baby should NOT sleep in the bed with the parents. Didn't you hear about the parents who slept with the baby in the bed and the dad rolled over onto the baby and suffocated her? You may think that you'd be able to feel it, but how can you be so sure?
2. I agree, let kids share rooms. I mean, you should never bunk a baby with another kid, but once he/ or she is a toddler, it's perfectly fine. They're a little more well behaved then and sleep through most nights. Let the teenagers have their own rooms. They'll be moving out soon enough anyway and they deserve SOME sort of privacy.
3. Seeing parents nude. Whatever. My mom walks around the house in a towel or changes in front of my sister and me all the time. But a child sharing a room with an adult when the parents will be having sex is just wrong. Yes, sex is a part of life, but would you really want to see your parents have sex? I shudder just thinking about that.
2007-11-17 13:20:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not WRONG, sex is a part of life...but it's not to be shared with the world. It should be just between a husband and a wife.
There was nothing wrong with living in the same room; parents and children. BUT people need privacy. I always lived in separate rooms from my parents and my siblings. As I said, people NEED privacy from time to time. I know when my parents "do it", so I know not to ever disturb them. It's just plain weird to walk in on those occasions.
It's normal for you since you probably grew up that way. Not everyone shares a room with EVERYBODY. So, people have different views on that.
2007-11-17 12:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kurosaki_Ichigo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad that your kids are more fortunate than you were and can afford better housing.
My grandmother was raised in a two bedroom house with 9 in the family. The parents had one room and the kids had the other.
Her dad was a coal miner in the early 1900s. They got by too, but these are better times so live with it.
2007-11-17 13:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want my son see me have sex with a man. Ever. That should be a private thing between adults. If my son has a nightmare or something or he isn't feeling well with a fever and flu, sometimes he will crawl in my bed in the middle of the night. I was never brought up that kids watch parents have sex, nor did I ever sleep in my parents bed, not even in my foster homes. I never did that, I never watched the parents have sex ever.
2007-11-17 13:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see anything wrong with co-sleeping to a certain point. Its so much easier to nurse and sleep in the same bed with a newborn. BUt so many moms are over tired and taking medication so they roll over on their newborns and kill them.
Besides that, it's stupid for 4 kids and 2 adults to be in one room if the house is big enough for everyone to have their own bed- its part of the natural development of a child to have a space thats his or her own.
Seeing your parents nude after a certain age- generally the age you realize your nakedness, is just weird. Thats all there is to it. Its not normal- even why back when when people were poor and living in one room cabins they still had sheets to separate areas when bathing to doing the dirty deed.
As far as knowing your parents are having sex... some parents are just loud. My husbands were... and even at 30 years old it still haunts him the noises and things he heard. Yeah everyone knows their parents have sex.. but now one wants to know it. Or be part of it by listening. BLECH.
2007-11-17 12:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with it either. My mind is a little more innocent than most and that's probably where the difference lies between me and others that think that would be weird. Those that think it's weird probably think of lust and sex and all the violence that goes with it. How sad is that? It gives you an idea of where their minds are at....
However it's still their child and you will have to let them raise the way they want to.
2007-11-17 12:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by mishmallow8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the same room is one thing. But _not_ in the same bed. There are so many thing that could happen, and that type of habit is not one that is easy to break later on.
No offense, but you are a little old school, now that can be seen as child endangerment.
2007-11-17 13:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jeccy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son sleeps with me. My sex life went out the window,but thats o.k. I know someday he is gonna be a man and im not going to get those precious moments back.
2007-11-17 23:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by JOHNNA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you relax, and let them be the parents, it is there child, it is there choice, seems like you are the one making a big deal, trust them to love and care for there child, trust that you have done your job as mother well, and respect your daughter enough to make the decisions about her own child
2007-11-17 12:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, Hillbilly...take it easy, put down the shotgun. What say you let your daughter climb down from the Appalachians and have her own life, m'Kay?
2007-11-17 12:26:14 · answer #11 · answered by . 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋