So my ex and I had a very very terrible break up. It was bad. We were together for about a year, and neither of us had really been in a serious relationship before. We are both in college, and what really contributed to our break up was the fact that we were in a long distance relationship for the overwhelming majority of the summer, so things got really dry between us.
About 5 days after breaking up, she immediately had this rebound guy, and they became involved intimately. She cries everytime she sees me, tells me things arent supposed to be this way, stillt ells me she loves me, tells me she misses me, and says she feels guilty. But she has a BOYFRIEND right now... wtf?
Is it worth getting back into a relationship? And if we are to get back into a relationship, assuming she breaks up with this guy, what needs to be discussed/planned out?
2007-11-17 03:47:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ouch, messy.
IMHO ending one relationship to start another is a bad idea. She should decide if she actually sees a future for herself with her boyfriend (and the fact she behaves with you the way you describe suggests possibly not) and if she doesn't she should break up with him so he can find someone else. As you say, she has a boyfriend at the moment. My advice would be not to get involved while that's the case. I also would make it clear you're not promising anything and you're definitely not suggesting she break up with her boyfriend so she can get back with you.
If she does decide it's over with him then it's very difficult. I'd probably say wait a while and see. If you're young you do make mistakes and it sounds like she genuinely thinks she did. That said, it can be VERY hard to recover from things like that. I'm not sure I could get over something like that. I'd like to think I could, but in reality you end up dragging it up again and again every time you have an argument. It's also often not nearly as good the second time round and all those positive memories you have at the moment are hard to live up to. Hope it all works out, good luck.
2007-11-17 04:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sam BR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems rather needy. If she really loved you, she wouldn't have jumped so quickly into a relationship. She would've taken time for herself, regroup her thoughts, and reflect. She now knows the grass is not always greener on the other side. You will find someone who will be what you're looking for... just go with your life and sooner than you know it, the woman of your drems will enter your life. But if you're in and out of a relationship with your ex... you may never find the right woman for you.
Good luck.
2007-11-17 03:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by lauli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What caused the break up in the first place? Are those things changed? If not that should be the topic of discussion there. If you 2 can agree to what needs to be different for you to be together then go for it. If you can not then it is not worth it. You must learn to communicate.
2007-11-17 03:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure that you are going to have many relationships throughout you school years. At the time, you are going to think that each one is the most important happening in your life, but when you grow up and mature you'll look back on them and see just how trivial they were.
2007-11-17 03:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well homie don't trip off the rebound because its mainly cuz of you. see shes been with you for a year and now being without a man is not something she can just get use to. he is company for the time of gettin over you. she may care for him but she stuck on you and she is hoping homeboy can help her forget about you. if you don't want that then you gotta move in fast for the reclaiming. further more the reason you broke up in the 1st placed needs to get discussed and put to closure.
2007-11-17 03:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Audamar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well.....it seems to me that she decided she wasn't ready for the type of relationship yall were going to get to. So, she found someone who wasn't really commited like you seem to be. She could have found a thousand guys like that in just a week!! Now, she realizes she is ready....but areyou? thats the question you have to answer yourself. If you love her and you think she really loves you and isn't doing this just because she wants a real relationship and your the only one she thinks is willing to.....well.......you'll have to decide this.....I can only give you advice. You know her more than me!
2007-11-17 03:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by k ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please remember, you are still young and have many choices in your life. I wouldn't wait for her. It will be better if you turn over a new leaf. As they say, there's no point going over the same railway track..Keep your options open and when you are in a relationship, if you are not happy, you are just wasting your good years.
2007-11-17 03:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know whether its right for you. how she makes you feel etc. you need to discuss what you both want in a relationship.
the break from each other might help especially as it was your first serious relationship
2007-11-17 03:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Cynical 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah same thing happened to me and continues to haunt me till this day. So im going to tell you rite now. Don't talk to her or go out with her. Everytime I tried t otalk to my ex after we broke up it got her sad and she just left and was with her boy friend now they broke up we are friends I asked her out she said no but shes always there with me hanging out it tears me apart. Just stay away from her :(
2007-11-17 03:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
five days after u guys broke up??
wow shes a whoreibile person ;)
well. i say dont get involved im a girl and i can she what shes trying too do to u.!
2007-11-17 03:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by ix3you 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋