My 12yr old stepdaughter has been living with us for 6 mths. Her mum neglected her& "couldnt cope" as she has 3other children. My husband hardly ever sees his daughter as he has 2jobs where he works early mornings & evenings so he sees her pretty much as she is going 2bed.Her mother sees her once per fortnight, so im the one parenting her.
I'm also 7 months pregnant with my first child & i work.
Her mam has just had another baby, since then Abbie has been really really cheeky to me, disrespectful, argumentative and naughty, but she is always good for her dad.When she is good we get on really well, but she is turning into the child from hell.I dont have experience of being a mother to a child yet, im only 25.Her mother thinks my way of punishing her is 2harsh & has a go at me over it & my husband is tired of me moaning about his daughter who he can see does no wrong. She is obviously confused and feels unwanted. Do I be selfish & send her back? or keep trying? i dont know what 2 do.
2007-11-17
02:45:36
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I know abbie feels as if she is being replaced by all of her mothers other children, she feels neglected by her mother. her mother does favour all of her other children over abbie and she has even told Abbie that- she told abbie she was going to put her into care if we didnt take her in. i have been with abbies dad for 8 years and we have always treated abbie as a family member rather than just a child. she knows we care about her and she knows i am trying my best with her, it is unfortunate her dad isnt here but i feel i have done a good job so far at being a parent to her and abbie knows this - we have little "chats" and she says she doesnt want to go back to her mums, because she isnt loved there. she says she doesnt know why she is being naughty and if she does she cant help it. she leaves me little notes and cards telling me how sorry she is, and how much she loves me - making me fel really guilty for being horrible to her.
2007-11-17
03:31:28 ·
update #1