Do you believe in abstinence?

Question

Why or why not?

Are you abstinent?

What religion are you and what does your religion have to say about abstinence?

By abstinence, I mean waiting until marriage to have sex.

Answer 1

I belive in abstinence. I belive that a person should get married first then have sex. Sex is an act of two souls joining together as one to procreate. Its not about getting it from one person to the next or about loosing your viginity so desperately. Our bodies are temples that are sacred. If you belive in God, you would then know.

Also abstinents is a great thing. Becoming abstinent won't lead you into worry of STD, thinking of being used, of being cheated, and abortion . Im Christian. We belive that fornifcation is a sin and that the act of sex should not be taken lightly. Sadly some may do so...but you can always ask God for forgiveness! Also, the best things in life are worth waiting for.

Answer 2

I think people need to choose what's best for them personally. No, I was not abstinent when I was single. Human beings have sexual needs, and science has even found out recently that the body begins to deteriorate (mostly hormonally) if a person does not have sex with another person a minimum of 2 to 3 times a week. Pleasure is important and not just because it feels good. It is important for society because people who experience a great deal of pleasure on a regular basis are more cheerful, helpful, and altruistic than pleasure deprived people. Singe a really good orgasm is the greatest pleasure a human being can ever experience, I think that makes sex pretty important.
As to my religion, it is a mix, but mostly liberal Christianity. In general, Christianity frowns on sex outside of marriage. However, I have my own mind and feel differently about the issue.
Also, as somone else said, I don't believe that abstinence is very realistic for most people.

Answer 3

I am not abstinent and I think it's a waste of time waiting until marriage. Not everyone has marriage in their life plans and not everyone CAN get married despite wanting to.
I want a guy to value me for ME and not whether I have had sex before or not.
It is such an outdated concept and has no place in modern society. If you want to abstain then great. Just don't look down on people who don't and assume that they are doomed to a lifetime of failed relationships and regret.

Answer 4

My spiritual path has nothing to do with abstinence.

i am abstinent, but not by choice...i just have so much other stuff going on to actively seek out an adequate partner.

i believe in teaching abstinence until you are in a committed relationship. But then again, if i actually practiced that in the past, i would not have my wonderful twins....

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Answer 5

It really doesn't have to take on a religious tone. Abstinence as a life choice is wise. If you practice abstinence before marriage, you are guaranteed not to have any sexually generated disease, abortion, or children(unless you marry someone married before) on your wedding night. How cool is that! God didn't invent sex to go unused. He just wanted to put it in the framework of a loving committed relationship called marriage. Really, even if you didn't believe in God and His Son Jesus, though I hope you do, abstaining from sex until marriage is a wise thing that keeps your life from all sorts of turmoil, not just the three I listed.

Answer 6

I don't believe in abstinence. It's unrealistic, and if two people love each other, they shouldn't have to get married to consummate their relationship. Heck, if people want to have sex with each other just for kicks, is there anything wrong with that if they use protection? However, people should be educated about the risks of sex and how to minimize them.

I myself am abstinent. I don't want to take the risks involved.

I'm an atheist, but I'm straightedge, which means no sex, drugs, meat, alcohol, cigarettes, etc. I try to live my life with as little self-inflicted damage to my body and mind as possible.

Answer 7

Why the hell would you? If you feel you're ready to have sex, what the hell does a religious ceremony mean? I'm not saying 13YO's should go out and get laid, but if you're an adult, you don't need god's permission.
Doing that is simply enforcing rules that fly in the face of human nature.
I'm an atheist, and I believe you only get one life, so you'd better enjoy it. Abstinence is a way of denying yourself an enjoyable life in the name of a false belief.

Answer 8

I don't have a religion so I don't have only my own opinions on abstinence. I was raised in a christian household but my parents never told me I had to be abstinent until marriage - in fact they disagree with it because as they told me people have to be compatible on all levels. I'm married so no I'm not abstinent but I wasn't when I was single either.

Answer 9

I am Baptist,I am abstinent, but sweety common sense should tell people that abstinence is the right thing. Babies out of wedlock, that the fathers walk away from and will not claim. Aids and other STD's.

Answer 10

For me personally? Absolutely not. Sex is certainly not THE most important thing in a marriage, but the fact of the matter is that when I was looking for a mate, this was the person with whom I'd be spending the rest of my life...including a good 30+ years in which I'll be sexually active. So...sexual compatibility was VERY important to me. I would never have gotten married to someone with whom I'd never had sex. My husband and I are perfectly matched sexually, and we're perfectly matched in every other regard too...and incidentally, we MET to have sex (he was a booty call turned boyfriend turned husband).

For other people? I respect their choices with regard to sex before marriage...no one should do it because others think they should.