for muslim moms.?

Question

When making your salah do your kids seem to be more distracting? I have a one year old and three year old at home and as soon as I start my salah there they go...jumping on me, getting under the bed and the baby not being able to get out.
or He will just sit infront of me and stare, Subhanallaah..no wonder Allaah said,
inamaa amwalikum wa awlaadikum fitnah wallahu I'ndaahu ajarun 'adeem.

I'm not saying this because i see it as a hardship God forbid,,,but it is hard to contentrate,,mothers will understand this better, its like you are praying yet watching over them at the same time.

ok. My question has turned a good discussion...not what I intended thought.
I do agree we need to teach our children to respect the masjid. I take my older boys to the masjid few minutes b4 people arrive for salah and tell them to tidy up the books and stuff. I read to them the story of the "black women" who used to clean the masjid during the prophets(saw) time, she passed away and no one notified the prophet(saw) when he found out he wept and said why wasn't I was informed of her death, I think He(saw) prayed for her. The idea behind the story is how important and dear masjids are to us. However we shouldnt just blame the moms some children take longer to understand and some are very hard to manage. Alhamdullillaah Allaah blessed me with easy going guys. My son learned a quote from school to. albilaadi ihubu llaah fil ard ila masaajid.
the places that are dear to Allah are the masjids. (sorry 4 my arabic).besides how can you teach a crawling 12 mn old to behave when mom is praying

Did you know that Al-Hassan and Al-Hussain used to play on the prophets(sa) back while he would lead salah, and He(saw) used to prolong his sajdah for their sake.
he(saw) was indeed Rahmatun llil 7aalameen

Answer 1

To be honest, didn't you ever think everyone else gets distracted when the kids act the same way in the masjid too? It's one thing if they crawl on you, or cry as a baby, but if they shout and chase other kids they should be given a coloring book or something to keep them busy. Same thing when you want to pray at home. Redirect their attention to something else or get them to pray with you so they learn. Yes, they are innocent and cute but we should not spoil them by letting them have their way.

Muslim fathers have the same way. From what I have heard the men's section at the masjid is no better either.

Answer 2

I don't think only mothers can understand....although it is different at home... I have been to the mosque... and the kids run loose and tear the place up. I understand being gentle with your children but my parents taught me how to act when I left the house and I would never have been allowed to get away with what these children do.

At what age are you supposed to start teaching kids right from wrong? Are you supposed to wait until it has already become a bad habit?

EDIT: I thought I wrote more. I wasn't trying to attack moms or anything. It's just I have some relatives that are VERY respectful when adults pray by them and others that are not and these are just little kids. The ones that are respectful were taught by their parents to be--yes, it took time and yes, they still crawl around and stuff but not as much. And at the mosque, they may not be my kids but I still watch out for them, I wouldn't want them to get hurt!

edit: like I said, I wasn't trying to attack you, it's just when I read your question it made me think of other things. I agree with you. I just see older kids running around way too much to be the exception. I also didn't say it was mom's fault. I see them doing the same things in the men's section. When I first read your question I didn't even see the ages of the children.

Answer 3

I'm not a 'muslim mum' but just wanted to say that this is normal and they'll grow out of it. Just don't be too hard of them.
Whenever I go to prayers during ramadan there is always one kid who decides to walk in front and me and sit there so when i do sujood i have to go over him - or attempt to move him. Its bad because I really have to control myself to stop from laughing out when they keep looking at you and saying random words.
However, they are kids and as such I don't think there is any sin it for them, or (hopefully) even you.

Answer 4

haha this sounds like my cats, as soon as i start to pray they decide they wanna try to lick my hands and bite my toes, and sit on my back -.-
and if thats distracting for me, i can imagine how distracting it must be to have kids u have to watch out for climbing all over u!!! props to you for being able to concentrate at all, sister! =)

Answer 5

when I was a little boy I used to jump on my mom's back when she prays allllllll the time lol my grandmother used to chase me lol

Answer 6

yes, I have seen that almost everywhere where there are small kids. kids are innocents and they do not what they are doing. but I believe as they grow up, its the duty of mothers and elders to teach them that this act is wrong and all... obviously they are cute angels but will understand later on,