Sent a small gift to someone I really like for their birthday. Nothing expensive but was really cute. Am pretty sure they received it by now. No response from them though. No email or call even. Does this mean that they didnt like it? (was not anything offensive) Please tell what it means and what I should do in this situation. If I called or wrote asking if they got it, what would that do, or should I just keep quiet and wait for them. It isnt very polite of them is it? Its actually hurtful to me but dont know what to do
2007-11-17 00:16:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Under ordinary circumstances, yes, it is rude to get a gift & not acknowledge it.
Is it a girl? Someone maybe you like & the feelings are not reciprocated? If this is true, she got it & doesn't really want to talk to you.
If it's a real friend, & there are no problems between you, then I'd say you can call & ask if she received it.
2007-11-17 00:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Winterskye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait it out a little longer, just in case they are really busy or are not sure themselves how to respond. And then it is perfectly appropriate to either write a note or call to be sure they got it. Phrasing it as though you were unsure about the reciept is a way to get around the awkwardness of asking, because it is legitmate to think that if you sent it through the mail that it did not get to the proper location (not terribly likely though).
And yes, gifts should be acknowledged. It is proper to give a thank you note, email, or call to thank the person for thinking of them. Unfortunately, some of those manners have fallen by the wayside in recent years. But try not to let your hurt take over, it could be that they love the gift and are not sure how to respond. Or they could be feeling like they are overwhelmed by you thinking of them. But if it has been a couple weeks, I would check up on it.
2007-11-17 08:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jules, E, and Liam :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty impolite not to acknowledge a gift, it is obviously bothering you and if you sent it via the postal service there is always the possibility that it didn't make it.
If you are worried about asking straight out whether they got it or not then why not send an email or call asking how they are and if they had a good birthday? That way you don't have to feel bad about checking up on it.
It is also possible that the person intended to respond but was busy and it slipped their mind - this is bad but it does happen. It happened to me and when the person called to check I had got the gift I felt awful that I hadn't responded and I ever since I have replied straight away!
2007-11-17 08:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by pinkgerbera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you very well. Actually it is a polite thing to response and acknowledge if one get a gift. (this is according to mostly western culture). But the attitude not to respond nor acknowledge, finds mostly in the eastern culture. I have experienced it myself. So, who are the person who you gave the present /gift to? If they have the same background as you, then this person is ignorant. But, is there a possibility that they have never received it?, Then I think it is alright to ask if they have ever received it. If the person has different culture, then you should not be offended, again, just ask if they have ever received it.
2007-11-17 08:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by love1000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right that it's appropriate for the receiver of a gift to express thanks, but gifts shouldn't be given with any expectation of thanks in mind. It's a great blessing to give a gift with not expectation of thanks or reward. Personally I know that sometimes I forget to do things like send a timely thank-you card but it doesn't mean that I didn't appreciate the gift or that I don't care about the person. I think it was very thoughtful of you to give a gift that you're obviously really emotionally invested in. That kind of thoughtfulness will go a long way.
2007-11-17 23:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very rude for them not to say thankyou, but do they know you sent it? And does this person know how to contact you? But first thing I would ask them if they got it, as a few years ago, my mother sent something to me, and it still has not arrived. If she had not phoned me to let me know to expect it , I would have never known that it was sent.
2007-11-17 08:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by scallerbar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's hurtful, then write or call to find out if they received it because if they did and they're not letting you know it's very rude of them.
2007-11-17 08:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by SweetyPie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should just ask her to confirm if she had received it.
coz u said that ur hurt coz she didnt even say thank u... maybe she didnt get it, with reasons i dont know.
or maybe she's just waiting for u to ask her if she liked ur gift.
2007-11-17 08:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by jara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could mean:
a) they didn't get it.
b) they are mannerless pigs.
to find out, call them up: "I did send you a little something for your birthday, you haven't mentioned it, I'm hoping it didn't get lost in the mail?"
2007-11-17 08:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by silentnonrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know, i didnt read it, i am just trying to bet my friend in points!
2007-11-17 08:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by julia p 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋