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Question

10 points for honest answer!!!!!!!!!!!!?
my friend who backstabbed and betrayed me...we have not spokebm for a couple of months but she is now trying to befriend my friends on facebook like my cousin and my latest man interest....why do you think she is doing this

its making me really sad and i do miss her loads we were very close at one time but what can i do im so so hurt

Answer 1

It depends on what she has done to you to make you this upset and whether you in yourself can forgive her.
Has she said to your friends that she wants to make up with you or anything? If she has, then she is obviously feeling regrettful of whatever she did to upset you and maybe 'testing the water' to see if you're still mad at her.
If she hasnt, or has said mean things about you then my likely guess would be that she is trying to turn your friends against you, maybe?!

You can only make your mind up about this as you know the full story and therefore think about the pros and cons of getting back friends with her and evaluate what she did wrong to hurt you.

Answer 2

This answer is not to grab 10 points but a piece of advice to you. When your frnd already has backstabbed you, you will experience such kind of incidence happening to others also by your friend. She would be thrown off from friendships soon and she might come running to you. Until such time, you needn't be worried a lot.

Answer 3

I am sorry she is treating you so bad. I really believe at this point you need to move on. Girls can sometimes be extremely cruel! Sometimes there just jealous of you or insecure. Just act like it doesn't bother you and it will go away. If you want you can try talking to her, but I don't think it will do any good. Just remember you are a better person that she is and enjoy life.

Answer 4

She is doing this to get to you. You have two choices here. First you can sit down and talk with her and discuss your feelings with each other on what happened. Therefore being able to put it in the past and move forward with your friendshid if you choose to continue being friends. Or, second you can leave things the way they are and continue not speaking with her. Hoping you choose the first one. It takes so much time and energy to be upset and angry with people. You have the power to forgive and move forward. Notice I said FORGIVE, I didn't say FORGET. What you choose to do with that power is totally up to you. I wish you the best.

Answer 5

What is more important to you.... The lingering hurt or the lost friendship.
Choice is yours.
If the hurt wins then its a closed case....
If the friendship wins then you need to talk with your friend, tell him/her how hurt you have been and rebuild the relationship and friendship over time.
The old saying is...
When you knock a nail into wood and remove the nail it still leaves a hole.
When you say something and apologise it still leaves the pain.... The pain will ease over time......
Give the friendship another go.... Eh !!!!!

Answer 6

It is hard to say why she is doing what she's doing when I am not her; but, my guess is that she is having trouble letting go and is concerned about the 'fall out' of her 'hurting/ betraying' you...
Did you dump her without explanation? Perhaps you should let your feelings be known to her; but beware, her attempts to befriend ppl in YOUR circle suggests a very manipulative, controlling mind.

Answer 7

Racheal one of you is going to have to bite the bullet and make the first move to contact the other if you want to regain this relationship. Why not attempt to contact her and let her know honestly how you've been feeling since you lost contact with each other. Best of luck and hope you are able to restore your friendship, as this is something none of us can have to many of.

Answer 8

I think that you just need to be honest with her, and tell her why you are upset. But also ask her why she backstabbed you and betrayed you. YOu might have done something that upset her to. Just talk to her, and be completley honest.

Answer 9

have you gotten a heartfelt..apology. if not you need one. also..u have to inform your cousin and man interest that this person is up to something.... and your man friend especially should keep his distance. she may be trying to hurt you in another way... taking your guy. i know it probably hurts since she was a friend..but she sounds..conniving and dangerous. she is not shy..right? so she knows how to approach you without using your friends.

Answer 10

u ahve to decide whether u want 2 b her freind 1st.
if u do then it's up 2 u how u do it.
if u don't then u need 2 confront her and tell her to move on, she is doing this to hurt u, not coz she wants ur freinds. u need to be strong and tell her to stop being a little person, also tell thoose other people what she is doing, if theyere good freinds they will support u.
i had a freind do taht and he took all my freinds and made me a gay person in their eyes (their homophobes) and i should have stood up 2 him and stopped him but i diddn't and i regret it.