Color my wife blonde?

Question

hello
My wife is a super gorgeous raven-haired beauty. Although I love her hair the way it is, I am obsessed creativity and change. (I am always trying new things, moving furniture around, etc :)
So, once goofing off this halloween, my wife put on a blonde wig. Although the wig was obviously poor quality (good for a laugh) the color itself, looked FANTASTIC on her.
Later, this got my creative gears thinking, and I asked her if she would think about going blonde for a bit.
When I casually asked, it was like I opened a huge old wound. She lashed out and said "Blonde is the ugliest color in the enitre world. Blonde hair adds 30 years to your look. Why are you trying to change me? My hair IS me." etc
Woah. I obviously dropped the subject right then and there. Perhaps becasue its now forbidden , or becasue she looked like Gwen Stefani's much sexier sister, I cant stop thinking of it.
Should I shut up? Should I ask again? In what way? Or, should I get to the bottom of the insecurity

Wow, I seem to be Mr. Unpopular here. I think perhaps some here are taking this far too seriously. I color my own hair all the time. Ive been all different shades. I woundt dream of changing who my wife is. I wouldnt dare dream of wishing I was with someone else. Thats a really harsh thing to say.
And to the one that says they would punch me in the face, I think that shows a lot about you. Would you punch someone in the face for saying I think these shoes look good on you?
Im a pretty passive person, and I think I meant this in all light-hearted-ness. To treat me like the bad sterotype of a huge-alpha-male-jerk is not ony hurtful, but just untrue. It would have been a lot nicer if you had just told me to drop the subject.

Answer 1

some women tend to get really attached to their hair colour and feel like changing it will make them a totally different person...i'm like that too, i'm blonde and i wouldn't change my hair no matter how many people told me i would look better with darker hair. it's just what i am and how i feel good. it's her hair and her decision after all. i suggest you don't ask her again since she's so fiercely opinionated about this...maybe you could get a blonde wig (of better quality) which she can wear for you at special occasions =)

Answer 2

I would of reacted the same exact way...thats ****** up!...your basically saying make your hair a color that you never had..and didnt have when i met you...now shes going to assume that you want to **** every blond you pass when your im public...shes going to think you just settled for her...but really wanted a blond...and i agree with her blond hair is ugly..it doesnt even shine it catches no light....and it looks cheap...i think you need to ask yourself why your so obsessed with change?...i think you have issues...do you really love this girl if you want her to change her looks so it feels like your with a new woman to please your sick little Fantasies???? i would of punched you in the face.

Answer 3

If you value your safety and well being as also good relations with your wife,listen to Sylvia.It's not uncommon to see very creative people landing on their own **** and then complaining.Ask them,who started it and they try to look here and there except on themselves(At that time,all creativity disappears).By the way,your's is not a case of creativity but fantasy.(no harm if you enjoy it but name it correctly).

Answer 4

If she hates blonde,shes not going to go blonde.

Simple as that.

You should just drop the whole subject and forget about it,because it irritates her apparently..and mentioning it will just cause problems.

Answer 5

Just color your own hair blonde and leave your wife's hair alone. :-)

Answer 6

It is very nice you are creative.
But you have no right to let your creativity changes others.....

Answer 7

advise a temporary dye and so she can see how it looks, and if she likes it she'll keep it :D