Would the Rabbi allow this? Is it against the religious law?
2007-11-16 21:34:57 · 7 answers · asked by JayBerg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It seems very risky. The odds of the bride actually running away with me would be highly unlikely. I'd need to have it well orchestrated and leave promptly if rejected. And have an escape plan. How would I get a chance to talk though?
2007-11-16 21:47:19 · update #1
It seems very risky. The odds of the bride actually running away with me would be highly unlikely. Even if i had it well orchestrated with an escape path and left promptly if rejected. Would I still be ruining the wedding?
2007-11-16 21:58:12 · update #2
This place has been very helpful and given me a better perspective. Please, more answers would be appreciated. I'm beginning to think it would be wrong to try to stop a wedding. Just try to confront the girl a few weeks before and just say what I have to say and be at peace with myself might be better?
2007-11-17 06:56:05 · update #3
I think that such an interruption would ruin the atmosphere. It'd distract the guests, bridal party, as well as the bride and groom. If you feel that strongly about stopping the ceremony, make your feelings known before hand.
2007-11-16 22:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Zombi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope- and in actuality the public ceremony is actually just a nice spectacle. See, the groom signs the ketubah (the wedding document) BEFORE the ceremony in the shul- and once that is signed they are married and if seperated need a get (Jewish divorce).
Note, this is from the Orthodox POV, what happens in Conservative/Reform/Reconstructionist etc ceremonies I have no idea since they do not follow Jewish law.
2007-11-18 02:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by allonyoav 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you would be ruining the wedding. Why would you want to do that? If you really love this woman, you wouldn't hurt her in this manner; you would respect her decision.
Either go to the wedding and act like a real man (by being mannerly and polite) or stay away. Don't ruin her special day just because your feelings are hurt.
2007-11-17 08:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by servinggodalone 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't stop the wedding ceremony. If she wanted to be with your she would be. I say cut your losses and move on.
Otherwise, approach her WELL BEFORE the wedding and tell her how you feel but don't expect much. She is afterall in love with someone else I assume.
Do not ruin her wedding day. It is the most horrible thing I could think of to do to the woman you supposedly love.
2007-11-17 05:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
See people like you and others need to realize all that stopping the wedding stuff is for movies. I have never been to a wedding where someone would try to stop it. I wish someone would stop my wedding for their own selfish reasons. If whomever you want to be with is getting married and you want to stop the wedding obviously they didn't want to be with you because they wouldn't marry them they would marry you. Don't look like a fool and try to stop this wedding. I wish someone would stop my wedding they would be tossed out on their behinds faster than they can say I Object.
2007-11-17 10:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the good tastes to discuss your issues witht he couple before they are infront of there closest friends and family on what should be the best day of their lives.
I'm Roman Catholic so thats just a guess.
2007-11-17 05:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She picked him not you. Go away the weekend of the wedding and leave them alone.
2007-11-17 05:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋