consider that you have very strong beliefs and the other persons beliefs and religion are even stronger .
Both my religion and his teach that any other way is hell so then I must believe he is doomed and he must believe I am doomed as well.
How can a husband and wife live a happy life here on earth knowing the other is doomed unless you can change there belief ?
2007-11-16 18:06:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you're both Christians of different varieties, just read 1 Corinthians 7:14 and assume that the wrong one will be made holy by the right one, and go on with your life together.
2007-11-16 18:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Occam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're not Catholic since the church doesn't teach or believe that other Christians are going to hell. If you are Catholic check out the catechism or ask a priest about this.
I don't either since the requirement for going to heaven is to believe in God & trying your best to be good as He defines it & asking for forgiveness when you aren't.
I would prefer to marry someone of my faith. Since you would both be going to your own churches, the biggest decision would be what will you do about your children? It would be pretty hard for either one of you to agree which church your children should attend.
Also, another reason is that most churches want you to marry within; when a couple doesn't attend the same church often one or both will fall away or one will convert to the other's religion.
Your churches aren't very tolerant, are they? But perhaps you can become tolerant of each other's religion if you work at it keeping in mind the big picture. Just don't try to convert the other or argue about it.
2007-11-17 02:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going into a marriage with the notion that you can change a guy, stop NOW. Men HATE change; men assume women will NEVER change, but unfortunately too many women think that they can change a guy after marriage. I'm here to tell you it will NOT happen. That's my first bit of advice, for which you did not ask.
As to whether I would marry someone from a different religion - it would depend on the religion. I'm Jewish, and I couldn't remotely marry someone who truly believed I was going to hell. I could not respect such a person, because his attitude would tell me that he did not respect ME, and did not trust me to make good, adult decisions for myself. I might marry someone from a different religion, but it would have to be one that was at least compatible with Judaism.
The fact that the two of you mutually believe that the other is going to hell sounds like a setup for pure disaster. For instance - what happens when you have kids. Are YOU going to teach them that the father that they love is so bad that he's going to hell? Is he going to teach them to think that about you??? VERY bad situation.
Either you need to find common ground, or you need to RUN the other way.
2007-11-17 02:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did. My husband is the most amazing man I've ever met. We have an incredible relationship. I am a Christian Witch and he is an Atheist. I often buy books and documentaries for him relating to evolution or some of his other Atheistic beliefs and he even catches rainwater for my spell work. We respect and admire each other for our strongly held beliefs. Of course I hope to impact him in the way I live, as I'm sure he does as well. We would NEVER try to "convert" the other, though. It can work only if your relationship is BASED on mutual respect and admiration.
Brightest Blessings
2007-11-17 02:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Celestian Vega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yours predicament sounds like my current marriage. They looked at me with condensing eyes the Pastor and my wife like I was a little baby boy. I hated that.
But I already know that I am saved even when they felt I was not. But just to appease them I did what they said was the true repentance of baptizing in the name of Jesus only. Cause I was baptized with the Father, Son, and the Holy Ghost and in Jesus name only.
So it depends on you two what you decide. I just made up my mind church doctrine was not going to separate me from the woman I loved and wanted to share the rest of my life with.
2007-11-17 02:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle Remus 54 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your situation, no.
I believe that no religion is valid if it is not accepting of all belief in God, and that love, wisdom, and acts of kindness are the path to heaven.
The particular religious prescription is not important if the above criteria are met.
2007-11-17 02:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Laurence W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would prefer an atheist as a wife, but if the girl is sweet enough, I'll marry her, regardless of religion.
2007-11-17 02:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Nowhere Man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simply agree to disagree, and let your love for each other be the driving force in your relationship, not your differing religious views.
2007-11-17 02:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Molten Orange 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is love not religion. You are together because you are in love with each other. God will acknowledge that even if mankind doesn't.
2007-11-17 02:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nopes.
2007-11-17 02:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by Maple Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋