should i be with her? best answer will be chosen. what do u think?

Question

Okay, so I have a girlfriend, and I really love her. she loves me too. she lives in Boston, and I live in Pennsylvania. She's native american/european. im african american/hawain. she's 5'8 and im 5'6. we're pretty different from each other. my school has 4,300 kids. her school has 7 kids. we get to see each other twice a year. we're both juniors in high school. i love her so much, and i wanna make it work, but its pretty difficult. i get mixed emotions sometimes when i think about her. but she's been there for me ever since we met and i love her. any suggestions on how to keep our relationship going strong. she is my everything. i would hate to loose her again, cuz it already happened once. its a challenge to stay faithful and focused, but i still do, its just wearin' me out, but i still want to be with her. any suggestions, ideas or opinions. sorry for the long description. and i really need your honest opinions on things i could do. thanks, and the best answer WILL be chosen.

Answer 1

It doesn't matter how many students are in what class, it doesn't matter how tall you are, it doesn't matter what race you are, it doesn't matter how different you are. If is love than that is all that matters. I'm sorry man but I doubt you love her this much if you only see her twice a year. If you DO love her then move to Boston and be with her, or have her move in with you, long distance relationships don't ever work they never have, they never will, sooner or later one of you is going to meet someone new.

Answer 2

Whether this becomes the best answer or not I hope this helps. First thing is that you have to look at yourself and you need to give yourself some credit, not alot of guys last long with women in distance relationships so you really need to give yourself a pat on the back cause from what you wrote you love her alot and your probably the only guy ive known who has loved a woman this much in a distance relationship. What I urge you not to think about its the differences between the two of you. Dont think about the difference in height of the both of you, or how many kids are at your schools or stuff like that. Think about what you two have in common. This is one of the best and only ways to keep your relationships running. Also dont rush things, if you want to be with her then fit it in your schedule dont but dont let it be an IMMEDIATE MUST. Always stay in touch with her and know how much you love her and tell her how much you love her. Talk frequently about whats going on in the lifes of both of you that way it would seem like you two are already together and that you have just gone on a business trip. Again never doubt your love for her or that things wont work out. If the love of both of you is strong enough and it holds against the fact that both of you are far away, then I promise to you you two will meet one day just dont give hope and remember to just think of things that are common in between the two of you so you never have doubts. And remember dont make it a MUST that she must see you RIGHT NOW tell her that it will work out and schedule it on you life that way you will be ready and it all goes well. Hope I have helped even just a little bit. Again good luck and dont forget that love is the most powerful thing in the world

Answer 3

If you love her which you say you do, then yes stay with her. A good partner is hard to find as is one that is truly there for you.

Don't let differences deter you or the distance. If you want it to work it will work. Its all about choices and your priorities..

Keeping your relationship going strong, requires commitment and imagination from you both. Write letters to each other, chat on the net if you can. You can play games etc online with each other.

Its in your hands.

Good luck!


A long distance relationship will be difficult and requires a strong commitment between you and your partner. The following 10 long distance relationship tips will go a long way to help you achieve a lasting love. Here they are:

1) Establish the relationship rules and parameters.
In a study of long distance relationships, Dr. Greg Guldner found that 70% of couples in a long distance relationship who did not set rules, or deal with changes, ended up breaking up within six months. This means that it is vital that you and your partner set rules and parameters to guide your long distance relationship. This includes an agreement that you will not date others, that you will communicate daily, and that you'll see each other at least once every 2-3 months in person.

2) Communicate Every Single Day
Part of a successful long distance relationship is being able to emulate patterns found in regular relationships. One of these patterns is daily communication. The evolution of the Internet is godsend for people who are in long distance relationships. Not only can you communicate via email and instant messaging for free, but you can also talk to each other through free services like Skype. And that means no more $500 a month phone bills!

3) Express Your Feelings
Learning to express your feelings to your long distance partner in email, IM, and on the phone is important for the growth and stability of your relationship. One of the ways it increases your relationship stability is by providing "reassurance" to the other person about your commitment to him/her. When you express your feelings, you are letting your partner know that you are committed to making the relationship work.

4) Send Care Packages
Every once in awhile prepare and send your long distance relationship partner a "care package". Here are several things you might consider putting in the package (not all at once, of course; pace yourself and your gifts):

Answer 4

Yes! From your description it sounds like she is steadfast and strong in her emotional support and her love for you. Never let a girl with those qualities get away. That would be a BIG mistake. Talk to her and tell her in detail how you feel. Maybe the two of you together can figure out some ways to see each other more often. But regardless man; DON'T LET HER GO!!! If you do you WILL regret it one day; I promise!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Stay in touch with her in the hopes that you can have a real relationship in the future. For the time being you should both be in agreement that you can see other people- twice a year is not enough.

Answer 7

Sgt and I started out in a long distance relationship 19 yrs ago! he's 6'4", very intelligent, focused, organized, structured, analytical, and scheduled. i am 5'1", i am goofy, smart but silly, always joking around, spontaneous, sappy, and spirited. very different people! we work very well together, we balance each other. things work very well with us. we are now long distance again! 8,000 miles! he is serving in Iraq. between missions, training and deployments, we rarely see each other anymore, phone calls are even few and far between, 61 days now! but it works, we love each other very much, and we make it work! we cherish every moment we have and take nothing for granted! Good Luck!

Answer 8

nothing matter when it comes to love !!! if u really want her then u would do everything u could to be with her. when u fall in love with someone u dunt fall in love with their look. When ur in love with someone u would sacrifice and always try ur best like my bf did to me...and ilhime so much and were alo long distance too.. CA-AZ it workin out so far ...so goodluck to u buddy ;)

Answer 9

Ok i only needed to read the 1st part to know the answer, it may be harder and require more work because of ur situation, but u both love each other... that is all u need :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLxTpsIVzzo

Answer 10

I think you should break up, eventually you are going to wake up one day and realise its not worth it anymore, harsh, but you arent going to want to stick around for her if you dont have nothing. Its like a chair, if one leg is missing then the chair is going to fall. My opinion.