Today I went outside and I went to the bookstore in Borders... As I was going down the escalator, he was going up and waved and said "hello" to me and I said "hey" back, and I couldn't really continue seeing I was going down and he was going up. And then later on weirdly, I met him again for the second time. That never happened before and I didn't notice till he yelled at me because he was in the car, and then he smiled at me and I smiled back. What kind of fool is he? After that he just left. He could have continued the conversation. If he wasn't interested, then he shouldn't have done any of those things at all. What is the point? Why can't guys approach me? Why do they always give chances to other girls that are gonna break their heart and then groan saying nice guys finish last? It pisses me off! What else am I supposed to do? Finally a decent guy who I was attracted to bravely made a contact... and we even met twice on the same day... and he didn't ask me out...
2007-11-16 17:27:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seriously, this always happens. Guys outside show they like me, like stare a lot/smile and sometimes compliment, but I usually ignored, but lately I signalled back... And people say I dressed too intimidating, so I even dressed not as good, I wore sneakers and reg jacket... But it still didn't work... I don't really know what to do anymore.
2007-11-16 17:28:25 · update #1
It is odd that he wouldn't have made an attempt at a more personal contact. Perhaps he didn't get a vibe from you to move in closer, therefore the fear of rejection set in. Or maybe, if you frequent this location, he may have seen you there before and anticipates seeing you again. Who knows, personally in such an occasion, I might tend to be shy towards someone I thought attractive. If the fear of rejection sets in, it can be tough to overcome as silly as it may seem.
2007-11-16 17:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by USwcBlues 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You open your mouth and speak your mind. What you want things to fall in your lap all the time. Sound like you always get your way anyway. Do something out the ordinary for a start. You don't have to approach individuals but if some try to open airwaves and start an approach -you can finish. Better yet, if it's what you want go seek it. If they resist, it's not for you. You women now and day think today's' young men still have game. GAME is so played out its ridiculous. When I approach a real woman, I say what I want from the chest area, not what I thought about. For example, you are beautiful and I need you in my life immediately: What do I need to do to make this happen? I myself get approached by those woman that are intimidating; figure-out with the gorgeous face needing to be in Cover Girl, and my tongue do get tied. But I don't let them out my presence! When they're leaving is when the guts step in and the surprise of it all step out. I have an attitude not to approach anyone, but the ones I do are aren't sophisticated; meaning nose isn't sky high when I say excuse me maim or she keeps walking. Eye contact is everything. So don't give up; maybe he wanted a freak instead of a women and your look was your available but don't settle for less.
2007-11-17 01:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by warbuks_wb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take encounters with guys so seriously, it's not all about a guy-girl thing, and not all guys are constantly looking to jump into a relationship- sometimes a hello is just a hello. Most guys might be thinking "Hey she's cute, I'll say hello... I wonder if I should start using a synthetic motor oil?"
Just strike up normal conversations and look for opportunities that will put you into mixed groups- social groups, special interest clubs, workshops, etc, and if you share common interests and let guys get to know you, relationships will happen.
2007-11-17 01:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by jbean444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a guy that you are really into you are allowed to initiate the conversation. It is very frustrating for guys to think of something to start a conversation with- sometimes we do, and it works out great. Sometimes we don't, and we smile, maybe say hello, but that's about it. Other times we try and be ballsy and just start talking, and look like idiots, and get rejected. It isn't fun. Help the dude out and start talking to him.
2007-11-17 01:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jay W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you meet this guy before?
What is your body language saying to everbody else?
What do you look like?
Would guys think that they would not have a chance with you?
These are just some of the considerations, but there are many more, this guy may just have been flirting with you (first time meet) or who knows. I'm thinking that you know this guy cos you say that your attracted to him? Turn the tables on the guys if you ask me!! be the one to initiate contact with the male, I know this is not traditional but give it a go! Ask some of your male or female friends what they think of you when you talk to people, you may be doing somthing that you don't think you are doing!
Let me know your thoughts
Tssmithy@yahoo.com.au
2007-11-17 01:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by tony s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try asking them out? I'll admit it is REALLY frustrating waiting for a man to make the move, they have this idea these days that they should not have to make any effort at all. You can do it, though.
Oh btw, Don't downgrade your dress, you'll just attract the sort of guys who would be intimidated by your true self.
2007-11-17 01:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by myleslr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wanted you attention, he wanted you to play.
Ever notice how a dog that's gotten out of his yard will bark at you but when you approach him he runs, and eventually goes back home?
SOME guys are the same way. He wanted your attention and barked at you. But when you paid attention he ran home (to his owner).
Don't worry. Flaunt it if you've got, if you don't, get it.
The right guy will some day come along. And instead of barking at you from his car, he'll bring you some flowers or something cute like that.
Till mister right comes along just think of them as dogs. They bark and get your attention. Then they'll either run away or come up to you. It's OK to pet them, just don't feed them or take them home.
LOL some times moving is helpful too!
2007-11-17 01:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by offthewall76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mama mia!! What are you doing to yourself. We live in an age of non-contact (IE cell phone sex is better) so what to do. First ask the Universe for what you want, believe that you already have it and patiently wait for its virtual reality. In the meantime do what you like to do...art...movies...any activity that puts you with other people who have the same interest. Guess what...the guy you are looking for will be there. Bada bing, bada boom.
2007-11-17 01:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by LA Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step forward, lean towards him and pretend you couldn't understand. A great conversation starter and the body language shows you're interested in knowing more about him.
2007-11-17 01:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im confused as to why you keep referring to "outside".
anyway. why not make the first move? theres absolutely nothing wrong with the girl making the first move in the conversation. as a guy, i actually think its great when a girl approaches me. it's a lot easier being a girl in the dating scene, use it to your advantage.
2007-11-17 01:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by FrostDiggity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋