ok there is this girl i no and she seems to be like an normal person on the outside.she is cute good personality smart knows computors how to install software has kids 4 not all with her.she just seems really cool and together tell you get to know her or go into her home. she is a total slob she dont clean she dont do dishes she her place is a complete mess.i ask why dont you clean the place she says my fans do it for me?meaning some guys who she attracts {like i said she is cute}so to get to it she has been with this guy for 2 years and hes a good guy works nice home nice cars and he sapports her and her 2 kids?that r not his.so she takes off and leaves for a few days or weeks and if they talk on line she says to him well you happy now you got what you wanted??? or why did you do this to us??? or you never loved me..everything she is doing she eather blames him or its his fault she never takes the blame for what shes doing or done.whats wrong with her is there help?what should he do?
2007-11-16 17:16:48 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It sounds like she is an addict of some kind. (Not all addicts use drugs or drink.) There are people that I call "chaos addicts". They cannot live without SOME kind of chaos in their lives - and if there is no chaos - they purposely create it. From what you wrote about her - this could be a possibility. There is also a possibility that she is a manic depressive person. Or.. if she has MASSIVE mood swings - she could be bi-polar. This can easily be diagnosed by a doctor or a psychologist (or she can take an online test - see link below). If he TRULY loves her and wants to be with her - then he needs to TALK to her. SO many couples out there get into situations and don't know what to do to get out of it. And the answer is SO SIMPLE. Communicate - and be HONEST. There are 4 things that makes any relationship successful - CRCT. Communication, Respect, Compromise and Trust. He needs to talk to her about what he's feeling - needs to let her know that he is concerned - and maybe suggest going to a couples counselor. They can really be helpful - because a lot of times a person will say something and the other person will hear something totally different. A counselor is there to make sure that each person is heard correctly - and to give them tools on how to improve their relationship and how to solve problems. I wish him luck.
2007-11-16 17:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by AskJanCee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely a serious situation.Also, just because this cute girl is experienced with computers does not mean that she has her life organized. I have known people as you have described with an outward appearance as having a good personality, cool, and have it all together.After being around this type of person, you get to know the real person. She definitely has another side. If this man is supporting her and her children he is allowing this person to manipulate his life for her own convenience and happiness without any clue what is going to happen from one day to another day. He has to take responsibility for his own actions and make his decisions based on the way that he knows what is best for himself. Unfortunately he is not the only one that has to be taken care of. If this immature woman has no regard for being such a slob is not the most important issue. The children are being used as pawns to keep this guy around. You say that she is playing these mind games with him and he goes along with it. It is time for him to grow up himself and let her accept the responsibility for her own lifestyle . Two people are more important at this time, the children. It sounds as though child protective services should be called in to investigate the situation because with her staying away from them, she does not sound as though she would be able to provide a safe,supportive,emotional life for her children. What is she doing with her other two children that you mentioned? Sounds like counseling would be a good choice not only for her but also for him. He needs to understand why he is continually staying in such an abnormally ill relationship.
2007-11-17 02:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a mental problem. There would be no treatment or cure because she would never get treatment. So be afraid , be very afraid, this ain't going to get any better. The other guy is an enabler. your best bet is find someone else
2007-11-17 01:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it is a personality problem more than a mental problem or illness.
However, if she is always blaming others, it would take a LOT of therapy for her to learn other ways of thinking.
2007-11-17 01:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's a mental problem, she just sounds very dysfunctional. It was hard to understand your question.
2007-11-17 01:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hee shewd hyr u made two kleen up.
you should practice spelling.
2007-11-17 01:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by CamP 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
RUN
2007-11-17 02:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by peaches 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋