I am a 21 year old female and I am on a break with my b/f that I have been with for a few years and he has been the only guy EVER i have been with, period. I met another guy who is older than me and we both like each other. I have already told my b/f that I wanted to have fun right now just to make sure I am making the right decision and he was ok with it. I just feel that if I dont see other guys now and see what other guys are like... then it would turn bad if I got married to my b/f. Well I have been talking to this older guy and we haven't been out together yet but are going to next week. We have talked on the phone for hours and I really like him and I can't eat and all I do is think about this other guy. I dont know if its like pre-love sick type of emotions or what.. or maybe its the excitement I am feeling. What do you think?
2007-11-16 15:27:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The feeling you describe sounds like an adrenaline rush. Some people have the rushes when they parachute, some people feel it when they mash the accelerator to the floor when they circle the track.
It's exciting ! It's new ! It's some you have never experienced. But, you have to make a decision whether to risk what you have to try to find a greener pasture.
If you were truly happy, you wouldn't be looking. You may lose what you have, but you should never settle for less than what you dream of, otherwise you will miss the thrill of the game........like sky-diving, race car driving, and life.
A good movie that is a good example of daring to take the risk in order to really live is : TIN CUP ......
Good Luck !
2007-11-16 15:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How much older... and do you know for sure he isn't married? If he is married, you cut him off immediately.
I generally agree that you should get out and experience life a while now that you are out of your parents' house. It will give you a greater sense of yourself, and a sense of accomplishment and inner strength. You will feel less dependent on the guy you finally marry.
I am of the opinion that once you get past college age, it starts becoming important to find out what a guy's real history is. By age 25, everyone has enough history that it bears looking into. You don't want to get involved with anyone whom it turns out has a prison record, really bad credit, multiple children to support, or a current wife.
I suggest negotiating a deal with a local private detective.
When you marry a guy, you get his credit rating... you don't keep your own credit.
If a guy won't marry you, you don't move in with him and you certainly don't make babies with him... get the piece of paper!
2007-11-16 23:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious that you have a crush on this older guy, but your TRUE LOVE is the one who you have been with for all these years. If you bf really trusted you and was really cool with you taking break and having fun..i would say that this is because he trusts you. Just think about this..eventhough you feel like you're in luv with this new older guy, what if he turns out to be a person not meant for you. You dont really hv to date a guy to find out "how other guys are like", being a friend will also help you know more abt other guys!!
In my opinion you should stick with your bf and lead a happily married life.
2007-11-16 23:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Smiling_angel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think being in 21 an 1 experiment make all this
2007-11-16 23:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by AD 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋