i am 25, she is 30. people think we are the same age which makes me feel like i must look old. people also think we are twins sometimes. she is always saying how gret she is and people always tell me how pretty my sis is. I am happy for her but this makes me feel like crap, like im not pretty then? I never know how to take this. recently she lost alot of weight and become thinner than me, which has only added to my insecurity. this is such a petty question but it bugs me. we are so different in style too. I am more artsy, punky sexy whereas she is more Jessica Simpson, Halle Berry hot. I just hate being compared and it makes me feel like ****. How to get over this? I tried to talking about it with my uncle's longtime gf and she was like well you're much sweeter and smarter, AKA, uglier. any ideas to not let it bug me?
2007-11-16 15:22:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
That is very common because you grew up with her. When you had a bad day you looked at your flaws and looked at what seemed to be her perfections. Being jealous of your sister is common but you never know if your sister is jealous o you. I found out that sister totally is jealous of me from my mom. Try that for ya.
2007-11-16 15:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by girllygurl5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous and jealousy is a very dangerous emotion.
I suggest you value yourself and stop the comparisons to the sister. A 5 year difference is small so it is no surprise you are mistaken for twins. What's the big deal? That has no reflection on you looking 5 years older, it just means you look a lot alike, period.
Grow up, you are much to old for these petty sibling rivalries.
Saying someone is sweeter and smarter certainly does not equal being uglier. How foolish. I think you may need to get some counseling and read some books on self-esteem. And remember, jealousy is destrustive.
I'd give anything to have my sister in my life, she died as a baby a long time ago. Just remember, your sister is human and you should value that you have her.
I think both of you are much to hung up on looks, which will fade with age. Start cultivating something really important like character, personality, a generous spirit, etc., things that are important.
2007-11-16 15:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the old saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Real beauty comes from within. I feel sorry for people who are drop dead beautiful because none of us are going to be beautiful forever and that will be a really hard thing for them to accept. Look at Hollywood you know what I mean say it with me plastic surgery to the point of freakish.
When you look at your sister see her heart not her physical being. When you look at yourself search your heart I had much rather be around someone who is kind funny outgoing smart fun. Pretty I can take it or leave it.
I know I have dated guys that were not that physically handsome but they were just so darn fun I could not resist them.
Take the focus off looks and search your soul for who you really are that is what is going to stay with you for a life time.
2007-11-16 15:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by mdjgirl7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a valuable person. It seems like comparing yourself to your sister bugs you because you don't see your own worth. I feel sad about that. All people are children of God and that makes us inherently valuable.
It also makes me sad that it seems like you are so focused on your sister's looks. Looks are nice, but they do not determine the value of a person. Our society sends us a lot of messages that you are only important or good if you are good-looking. That is utterly wrong. I'm not saying that you are not good-looking, but I'm saying that you should form your idea of self-worth on something more important than looks. It seems like you are a good person; try to remember that you are trying to be good and that God loves you.
2007-11-16 15:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of all the GOOD things that you have that your sister doesn't have. you are unique in your own way. just wait till you are her age, you might take after her.
2007-11-16 15:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by CAgirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop comparing yourself to your sister.
Ignore what everyone says, detach yourself from her and live your own life.
Go out there and see what the world has to offer you and dont think about your sister, it's all about YOU
2007-11-16 15:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be happy for her and think about all the good things about
yourself.
2007-11-16 15:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rosey N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it.
2007-11-16 16:01:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cee T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋