My fiance and I have decided to move back to my hometown in the minnesota from where we live now in CA (where my fiance's from) We've just had enough of the traffic and people and its really starting to effect our quality of life. We're both looking forward to a smaller town. the only problem is my soon to be father in law is less than excited that we're moving back to my hometown. He doesn't seem mad that we're moving in general, just that we've chosen to move back to where I'm from. Are there any suggetions on how to convince him that this is a good move for us? We are adults (25) and will move regardless but we would like to have his approval. Any suggestions?
2007-11-16 15:20:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ahhh Minnesota! Less crime. More space. More of everything for the dollar... everything is more reasonably priced. More conservative population. Snow. Cleaner schools for children to attend. Fishing. Wildlife. Plenty of cultural events.
California? Traffic. Congestion. Wildfires. Floods. Drought. Landslides. Earthquakes. Street gangs of every sort. Sleazy semi-naked people. SMOG. Incredibly disproportionate prices of real estate. Wages disproportionate. Not family-friendly. Stress & psychiatric drugs. Silicone everything.
I think that the FIL just doesn't want to be left behind.
2007-11-16 15:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need his approval? You are soon to be married, and you both should make your own decisions. I wouldn't worry about your father-in-law-to-be. He'll get over it, and will probably enjoy flying back occasionally for a visit.
Or, you two may decide, after awhile in MN that sunny CA is where you want to be. There are small towns in CA, also.
2007-11-16 16:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will miss his son! It's not only daughters parents who miss their children. Maybe he watched too many Golden Girl episodes and doesn't think there will be much for his son to choose from in the work world?
I hope your honey has lived in a smaller town before because it may be too big of a shock for his system! Be sure to keep the small town gossip away from your door too, or he'll be running back to CA sooner than you think!
Just assure him it's safer there, cheaper to live and ask him to come along to see where you'll be settling in. And add one of those big sloppy wet Minnesota kisses!! :-)
2007-11-16 15:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you have to convince him if your adults? It wont matter what you say. He doesnt care what the reasons are. He wants to be in your lives especially if you ever have kids. He will miss all that. Your reasons for moving are good and I think the idea is great but nothing you say will make him happy about it. Hes just going to have to live with it. He isnt a baby. He has to work this out for himself.
2007-11-16 18:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A part of him is moving far away! Assure him that you expect him to come back for a visit when you get settled (and pay for ticket if necessary)...making a joke as well that he might consider relocating out of CA for the pure luxury of peace! I'm from CA and my son just moved to WA state...I'm so excited for him to have gotten out of CA and am looking forward to moving up there someday and away from CA.
2007-11-16 15:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that he might not know much about your town so maybe inviting him there for xmas might help him to see what it is that you love and miss.
I think once he sees it he might feel the same way you and your fiancce do.
but be warned, this could backfire and he might move there too
2007-11-16 15:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just saunds so confusing to me. just dont move
2007-11-16 15:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋