Should I give up on my sister???

Question

I feel like my sister and I are slowly drifting apart. We have always had opposite personalities (my sister is the liberated party girl and I am the responsible goody-goody). We have had fights before, but recently our arguments seem to be getting serious. Sometimes I wonder if it is because I am jealous? Sometimes I blame it on the fact that some personalities really just do not jive. (For example, I hate how she flirts with guys all the time and brags about her many friends. She hates how I follow the rules and am just too conservative) Tough, huh? Sometimes I can't even stand looking at her. I dont know if I am mostly mad at her or jealous? I tried ignoring her, and maintaining the minimum amount of conversation. I felt that by doing that, I will be decreasing the possibility of engaging in another argument. I feel that our relationship is going nowhere - and fast. The thing is, its hard to be this way since we live in the same house.

Answer 1

wow. the same thing happens to me and my older sister. she loves her friends and she never says i love you to me...i forgot the last time she kissed me or hugged mee. i wish that day would come because i miss the old her. the one who didnt care how she looked and always hugged me. sometimes i though i was hre bff. but ofcoarse she has my cousin...they are really close and she always hugs and kisses her. anyways we fight all the time and recently for me, she starts cussing at me and saying the f word. she never listens to me and when i try to esplain she always thinks she is right. i barely talk to her now, shes alwways on the comp, and she hates it when i bug her. its starting to make me really sad. i think that they are to stuborn to see what they are doing to us. were both in a situation wich our sisters care more for their friends than us. and its good that u are different from her. be urself. be smart...ull go further than her...she thinks boys are everyhting but they arent. they shouldnt be. they will see sooner or later that what tehy did was sad and cruel. my sister is also the type that spends money and doesnt care for how we pay the bills. just because she gets so muh cloths, i cant get anyhtign because i feel bad for my parents. im different from her too. im in a high school musical play at my school and she thinks its so weird. and she would never stick up for me. i want to write her a letter telling her everyhting that i feel. i hope that she listens...i dont even know if i want to do it...im emberassed. but you coudl do that if you want her to not argue. i think they will realize sooner or later that tehy are worng. the sad part is since they dont get it know, we are waisting time by not spending time together. who knows then they will understand that they are leaving us...maybe it will be in a year. i dont want to waist a whole eyar being sad...but i guess if u really want things to change, you should talk to her. i dont know if i can because since she isnt open with me, i feel emberassed. anyways dont give up on her. some day you guys can be good! and email me if u have any sister problems. i probably went through the same things u did. and im glad you wrote this question because igot a chance to share me feelings about my sister.

Answer 2

Just stick through it. I'm going through the same thing with my parents right now and it really sucks. Even though your relationship with her may not be the same afterwards, you'll get through all of it and there's a chance it'll be stronger when it's over. If you need to, just take a break or a little mini-vacation if you can just to let your mind rest from all the stress. She probably needs one too and most important of all, don't think too much about it. All bad things come to an end sooner or later! :)

Answer 3

How very sad that you kids were not raised and trained to be friends and companions instead of what you describe!
Why is it that you were not programmed in early childhood to love, respect, honor and value each other??? Well, being raised the same way as you, I now fully understand what a sorry, miserable and inadequate job of training us kids my parents (and yours) did by allowing or even encouraging us kids to be hostile enemies instead of loving friends.
What to do about it. I'd start by treating my sibling with gentle, kind, caring, polite, respect - just the way I'd like to be treated and hope she returns it. I'd do whatever it takes to return to the birthright of having a wonderful, loving, understanding relationship with your sibling. Start right now being a loyal friend and let if go where it will.
If you find that you just don't know how to be a loving friend to your sister look here for some ideas:
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Answer 4

You'll both grow and grow in the ways in which each of your paths direct you.

Your probably jealous to some extent, because your affraid of the unknown! But you may be thinking she's all that and having all the fun, when actually she probably isn't. My sister thought that of me. She ran off to get married and all of a sudden I was suppose to be her friend........but she left me.....not my fault she got pg right away and wasn't able to enjoy her last year of high school like one should.

Hang in there you'll either get closer or further away. Just be YOU!!

Answer 5

I think that if you were to loosen up a little bit and tried getting to know her, you two would be a lot better off...she probably isnt as bad as you think, yeah she may party and what not, but thats not all shes into....try to have a little more fun and maybe some of your conservative views will rub off on her too.

Answer 6

Just let her go her own way, and you stay out of her way. She has her own lessons to learn... probably the hard way. She wants that much rope?... no problem, she can have as much rope as she needs to go hang herself. Her party-hearty friends are probably not anything worth writing home about.

You do the best you can to honor who you are, within and without. You can reach out and make good friends who share your values. Respect yourself by not needing to control your sister, but instead allow yourself to be there for her when she needs you.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

She is your sister so you have to at least try and get along and not just one of you ,,both of you have got to try. I wish I had my older sister back to just talk to ..but she died of cancer 14 years ago and I miss her very very much...This is your sister not just someone staying in the same house as you,,,Be grown up about it and at least try to get along..
My younger sister and I used to fight all the time but now that we have grown up and have children of our own we are the best of freinds..So don't give up on your sister,,,time will tell

Answer 9

This is classic sibling rivary, and yea it probably wont get much better.
Just embrace yourself don't concern yourself with her.