I dk how to tell my mom i need help?

Question

I dont know how to talk to my mother. Ive been pretty depressed lately, and i think that i should really get some help. Ive been to a therapist before, but that didnt help much. So im thinking about going to a mental hospital for a while. But the thing is..i dont know how to ask my mom. I have no idea what to say or how to tell her. Please, anyone who has ANY advice..help me..

Answer 1

If you can't talk to her directly, write it all done and hand her the note. She is your mom, she loves you and she will do the right thing.

Answer 2

A mental health hospital is quite a step for depression.

Firstly, it would be good to establish whether your problems are mental or whether they have another cause. Treating depression as a mental problem, when it is really a hormone imbalance, vitamin deficiency, or other issue is useless. You may not even be aware that there is another issue, much less just what it is.

I'm not doubting that you are depressed. I just know that anemia, diabetes, thyroid problems, certain vitamin deficiencies, and a plethora of other issues can lead to depression. (Just for giggles, do you feel better about a half hour after you have a glass of orange juice? ) Are you tired all the time? Do you sleep well? Is this depression accompanied by a mental fog?

Just tell your mother that you have been depressed lately and need help dealing with it. Suggest that you be taken to a regular doctor to see if there is something wrong, and if he or she sees it as a depression, then get treated for depression. There is the odd chance they will find something else.

Guessing from your post, you are a teenager. During this time in your life it is very normal to have some pretty wierd feelings, and depression is rather common in one form or another. Both your body and your brain are changing (your brain rewires itself, believe it or not), and these changes are anything but mild. Some people have trouble dealing with the changes, and in others something does go organically wrong.

At any rate, talk things over with your mother and explain that you need some help dealing with the depression. There just isn't any magical set of words that you can say to help get over this or make the conversation any easier. Telling her flat out at a convenient time is about the best way you can do it. Suggest a trip to the doctor, and talk to your doctor when you see him or her. There is a lot they can do.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I think that you should atleast try talking to her, if you do not feel comfortable speaking with her in person about it then you should write everything down. But if you truly feel that you need some help, please don't hesitate because you are afraid. Your mother loves you unconditionally and would want you to get the help you feel you need. The first step is admitting that you need help, and as long as you are willing to get it, then it shouldn't be too hard to convince your mother that you need to get some. Just sit your mom down and explain to her that your previous visits with the therapist didnt seem to help you, and that you would like to expand your horizon and receive a different kind of treatment that you might benefit from in a more positive way.

"One who asks for help is a fool for only a minute, while the one who doesn't ask is a fool forever"


I wish you the best of luck with your mom, and with getting better!!

Answer 4

Is your mother aware that you have seen a therapist before? If she is then tell her what you have just told us. Write her a note leave it where she can find it or just tell her if you are comfortable with that. Tell a trusted friend or another adult you feel comfortable with. You have taken the most important step so far you have told us. You are worth the effort tell somebody. I know your Mom loves you very much and she wants to help you that is why God gave us Moms:-)

Answer 5

Why are you scared to talk to her and tell her exactly what you've told us on here? I think that you are not scared of telling your mother, I think you know that by telling her she will get you help and help is sometimes a scary thing. One does not know what to expect. Just know that having mental issues is NO WORSE than having appendicitis. It happens and luckily there are professionals who specialize in these areas and can and will help to make you feel "whole" again. Don't waste anymore time. Talk to your mother and get the help you deserve. Life is too short not to.

Answer 6

Consider giving therapy another chance. Maybe you will get hooked up with a counselor or therapist that will meet your needs better than the last one, so you might not need inpatient treatment...if you have an open relationship with your mom, it makes sense to talk to her directly. If, however, you think she might respond poorly (get mad at you, minimize your feelings) then talk to another adult you trust, who can communicate with your mom. Whatever you do, don't hold in this struggle--talk, talk, talk about it! You deserve to feel better, and you will with time, love and support. I wish you the best on your journey!!

Answer 7

It is always hard to tell people about what your feeling. I would tell my mom that i need to talk and just be straight with her. Tell her you've been feeling really bad lately and you think you need some help. I think she will be glad that you told her instead of you being depressed and have problems.

Answer 8

You need the line of communication open with your mom and dad, and your therapist too. Good luck in the future, and stay positive :)

Answer 9

You should ask her, it is the only way you can get better you should'nt be imbarrassed she should support you since you have grown up around her.

Answer 10

build it up so it will be really scary for you to finish the sentence... for example make it sound like you're going to tell her your pregnant or that you're coming out of the closet. she'll be glad that you're depressed.