My son is 10 years old and in the 4th grade. When he was born he was diagnosed with a buried penis which meant that his penis was not visible outside of his body. His case was an unusual one because most baby boys who are diagnosed with this condition have excess pubic fat and are left alone but my son's penis was not hidden underneath the fat but actually deeper beneath. We decided to go through with surgery . I wish I could take back this decision back. Not only did it not help correct it but it severely deformed it. His foreskin looks like it is detached from his gland but still attached to pelvis. As he got older, the gland of his penis began to show so it actually looked like he had a penis. Ever since the third grade his school made everyone take P.E. Almost everyday my son told me his horror stories at school about kids making viscious comments about his penis. I have tried to get a P.E. waiver and also talked to the superintendent but he claims the abuse goes on. What can I do?
2007-11-16 15:04:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
If this is a true thing,
He shouldn't be taking his underwear off for gym class, hell we didn't start changing for class until I was in middle school. He needs to be moved to another elementary school and you talk immediately to the principal and tell them that your son will not be changing out of his underwear in gym class. That sounds very weird to me.
2007-11-16 15:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlike some other comments here, I did have to fully change for 4th grade P.E. I was already into a DD bra and I got teased horrifically for it. I felt ashamed and embarrassed because I developed differently than the other girls in my class.This is no comparison to what your son is going through, and you as a mother.If you decide to pull him out of P.E. does it really do any good for him now?The damage is already done and believe me those other little boys won't stop. The problem also lies in if you move him to a different school, do you plan to take him out of P.E. all together. Regardless of where your son is at, you will have to teach him to be secure with himself. Proud of the little boy he is, so he doesn't have problems later in life. It is very sad, and my heart goes out to you both.
2007-11-17 19:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cha Cha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would elementary school kids be naked for P.E? I've never heard of that. My son's school doesn't even have them change their clothes. If your son has to change, have him do it in a bathroom stall. If you transfer him and the situation is the same, he'll just have a new bunch of kids to tease him. Also, he should not have P.E. waivers since he has no reason not to get some healthy exercise.
2007-11-16 23:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Driver 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids are mean, what you need to do is teach your son how to deal with it.
I had a cousin who's daughter was badly scalded as a baby and has bad burns all over her body, she brought her daughter up to deal with it in a way that was good.
Her daughter has always been told that she is beautiful and when she is teased she just turns to the other children and simply states to them that they are just jealous that she is unique and that they can't be her.
That they are just like everyone else where as she is special and very unique which makes her more beautiful.
That attitude has carried her into life as a happy adjusted person who is not in her 20's and she has no complexes about it.
I hope this helps you and your son.
2007-11-16 23:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the school board. See if they will allow a PE waiver. there is always one more person to talk to. Supt. tend ot be stuck on themselves a lot of times.
Maybe some counseling would help with your son.
In Iowa we have open enrollment but you need to understand that kids are kids and it will continue with just a lull in a new school.
Best of luck.
2007-11-17 00:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't remember having to show my privates when I went to school and participated in P.E.? Unless he takes showers with his peers during or after P.E. As I recall there where private showers and bathroom stalls with doors and I would imagine its the same in every PE locker room. I would imagine that your son can choose to be private when it comes to his body. At least I was when I was younger. I would give him the choice to be home schooled or continue in another school. When he goes to the other school tell him that he has the choice to be private with his body or not be private. If he chooses not to be private expect immature kids saying immature remarks and he can choose to ignore it or he can choose to let it bother him.
2007-11-17 01:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your looking for help and not getting it so it is important to work with your child to accept what is going on.
Get a PE program off campus until you both can deal with it.
Kick boxing program swimming program or try to get in a private school Get a Dr to write off the PE at school for you.
Most important of all work on the way he thinks it is by working on metal image Find his talent and make it his pride.
Dealing with a child it is important to find a positive and keep it going
2007-11-17 04:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back and talk to the doctors. Time changes all. There may be new procedures. I do not understand why American kids have to get naked in front of each other at school. This never happens in Australia
2007-11-17 03:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your son is subjected to ridicule.
Please help your son. He will need counseling, because of those little idiot bastards who have made fun of him. That makes me angry.
You have options. You could transfer him to another school, or possibly even file a lawsuit against the school. But I would only do that if they refused to help you.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-11-16 23:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the Principal and Guidance Counselor of the school.
2007-11-16 23:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by snowlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋