to Thanksgiving dinner? My husband called and invited them instead and they are mad at me.
2007-11-16 14:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by Amy C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you had called they would have found something else to whine about. Don't worry about it, just have fun cooking and enjoy your meal.
2007-11-16 14:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by freebird 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If I remember correctly, theoretically the hostess does the inviting, but I'm sure this is not the first time in history where she delegated that responsibility to someone else. Is it possible that they are that into etiquette? If so, they would graciously accept the invitation, since etiquette is not about being rude. Are you sure that's why they're mad?
Well, at any rate, what you should do is call your mother-in-law and apologize. Say that you didn't realize it would make them upset and that you would really, really like them to come to Thanksgiving dinner. It's better to repair the family relationships than worry about a small thing like an invitation.
2007-11-16 15:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Maybe they think it's the "little woman's" role to invite quests to dinner. I see nothing at all wrong with him inviting them instead of you. Surely they would know that the invitation is extended to them from both of you! For the life of me, this question has me totally baffled!
2007-11-16 17:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I actually agree with Shorty. Apologizing doesn't mean you are admitting fault, it is just a way to show that you care about someone's feelings. Just tell your mother in law that you didn't realize that by having your husband call you would be offending them, and of course you would love to have them for dinner. This is such an easy fence to mend, why cut a bigger hole in it?
2007-11-17 16:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no rule that says YOU have to do it. He is their son and it is his home too.
Personally, I would call because I talk to my mother in law more than my husband does, but it took 10 years for that to happen. In that first 10 he did all the calling.
You're not wrong, they're just petty morons.
**Drshorty... She did nothing wrong! She owes no apology.
2007-11-16 22:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're family. It shouldn't matter who does the inviting. Someone needs to get over themselves and just enjoy knowing their presense is wanted.
2007-11-16 14:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by TIna 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think it is super-pety for anyone to be upset about WHO invited who. Just be happy you're invited and people get along.
2007-11-16 15:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They have no reason to be mad. Whether it's your husband or you who called, it should be the same to them. Your husband represents you and you represent your husband. No difference.
2007-11-17 03:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
then they were already looking for a reason......it is completely normal for the actual child to request their parent's presence.......it is not as if he said, "I want you to come, but you know how she can be." He didn't say that did he?? hehe. In-laws suck sometimes....good to find out early!! good luck!!
2007-11-16 14:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it matters. usually, if it's my family that needs to be contacted, i call and visa versa. your in laws are just being difficult. blow it off.
2007-11-16 14:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋