What makes the difference between a "keeper" and a loser?
2007-11-16 14:33:05 · 12 answers · asked by Silva 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has to be someone I can respect.
They have to have a sense of humor.
They have to be dependable.
In dependable, I mean that it has to be someone who will stay by your side no matter what. They have to be able to go the extra mile if you can't. They have to be able to pick up the slack when you can't. (for those that know me. My husband had to carry the load of everything around my house for 4 years while I could not) That is very important to me and he did not harbor any ill feelings towards me during the whole thing. I would do it for him too if I ever had to.
The inability to have any of these qualities would be the deal breaker.
2007-11-17 02:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1.Choice Compatibility (he likes what I like or is prepared to seek new areas of interest together)
2.Intelligence Match (we have the same intellectual level and so can sustain a decent conversation)
3.Sense of Humour (when the going gets tough the tough get laughing - the more offbeat SOH the better)
Are my top 3 signs of a keeper. If my mate doesn’t have those then he is by default a loser.
Goes for galfriends too I gues
2007-11-16 22:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by *Jellz* 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. Honesty
2. Honesty
3. Honesty
There are more, but you asked for the top three. Keepers don't lie to me, or if they do out of fear/hurt etc., they admit it and we talk about it. Dishonesty is the reason the last person I had a relationship with before my husby and I are no longer together. Of course, from that person's perspective, it's all my fault, so I suppose it depends on who you ask. But I can't deal with lying about lying, and in fact refuse to, so there you go.
Losers - not gonna get into that. There are way more than three reasons not to stay in a relationship, but dishonesty ranks up there first for me. I'd prefer to think of them as incompatible beings or imperfect beings just not imperfect in the same way I am though. (:
2007-11-16 22:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Hoosier Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His ability to respect not only me but other people. Like, if he makes nasty, judgemental comments about anybody, he's out.
Honesty. If he can't tell the truth and be himself around me at the very least then who's to say he'll ever change?
Intelligence. I'm not looking for an Einstein, I just want a guy who knows what he's talking about instead of spewing random things that he thinks sound smart and who can spell like he actually paid attention in middle-school English classes. That really isn't a lot to ask, is it?
2007-11-16 22:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. loyal - you'll never really know but at least choose the ones that are unlikely to cheat
2. sweet - can't be with another person for the next 50 yrs if there's no romance
3. equally or a bit more dominant than the girl
2007-11-16 22:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by summer 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
keepers are:
sincere
ambitious
moral
losers are:
liars
cheaters
2007-11-16 22:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by it's_love 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Intelligence, humor, and empathy. Two out of three at least.
2007-11-17 06:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by ghouly05 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honesty.
Common values.
Low maintenance (few demands/few desires/few expectations)
Does not have an anger or blame problem. (this is very important)
Willingness to listen & communicate.
Kind.
2007-11-16 22:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He has to have morals, a fun personality, and I have to be able to trust him.
2007-11-16 22:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Leah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
good cook, likes your friends, and can carry on intelligent conversations...
2007-11-16 22:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by NCSUwolfpack22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋