ok so theres this guy i have liked for a looooooooooong time and he likes me back. but as soon as i figured out he liked me i stoped likeing him i think..... im not sure does anyone have a logical explanation like oh this is normal your just blah blah blah please help im sooooo confused........
2007-11-16 14:29:07 · 13 answers · asked by jkgirl<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know i should know but i dont
2007-11-16 14:33:54 · update #1
Sometimes people just like the thought of someone liking them and when they actually do, it scares them. I was that way when I was in high school and the middle school. I had secret crushes that No one ever knew. When a guy I liked would start to look at me and smile, I would force myself not to look at them because I didn't know what to do with the feelings.
I was immature and insecure, shy and introverted.
Some people just like the thought of it and when the feeling is returned, the "fantasy" of what it would be like to be liked in the same way is over. It kind of dies as soon as the "quest" or fantasy actually becomes real.
I would suggest that you analyze your feelings. If you like him, just get to know him as friends only. See if you do or really don't like him more than friends. Do not rush into anything. He may turn out to be a great friend if nothing else.
2007-11-16 14:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the thrill of the chase is the funnest part. Once you know you can get the guy or girl, it just becomes less desirable.
I wouldnt hoook up with the person though now since you know your heart and mind are not 100% there now. Its not fair to them to if you aren't totally for it.
2007-11-16 14:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...it definitely is normal, it's happened to me numerous times. Maybe you like the chase and now that it's over you're not interested anymore. Or maybe you put so much into liking him that he started to like you back, but by that time you had lost your feelings for him and the timing just didn't work out. Don't worry about it, it totally happens.
2007-11-16 14:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cali2AZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters what order the things occurred in.
If you stopped liking him the moment after you found out, then you only wanted him because you felt you couldn't have him.
and If you stopped before you found out, self-consciencely you have been trying get over him and it just a coincidence that his feelings came around the same time yours left.
2007-11-16 14:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by ‹(•¿•)› 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you wanted to give chase to get him but since he likes u back you lost the feelings for him, most guys and gurls live on the feeling of trying to get the impossible or the hard to get types so they be happy when they get nailed and some like to be chase
2007-11-16 14:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you like someone for so long, It was quite fun, right?
But when you finally find out they like you, It's boring because thinking of them liking someone else, or having that mystery of if they like you or not, is the best part.
2007-11-16 14:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were afraid at first that he would reject you, but now that you know it's like no big deal. Try playing hard to get, maybe that will start you liking him again.
2007-11-16 14:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by jolmata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur the one that can tell if u still like him or not. jus make sure he doesnt act differently, and like them the way they are. first u gotta find out if u really like him. then u can get some better tips.
2007-11-16 14:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Charger 31 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you wanted him until you got him, then you realized you didnt want him anymore, or that you never really wanted him in the first place
happens a lot to a lot of people
you'll live
2007-11-16 14:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are scared thats why your ashamed that if asks you out you will say no without knowing it
2007-11-16 14:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋