Mom, Aunt, and Boyfriend trouble...What have I done?

Question

My Mom let me go stay with her sister (my aunt) on wed and thrus. My Aunt is only 25, and isnt married or anything. I like to stay with her, she is really cool, and likes to do the things that i do. Well, thrus nite she had to run into work for about two hours, and i called my bf over. we were just going to watch a movie, but things went to far. my aunt came home early and caught us. i have NEVER seen my aunt that mad, but she was yelling at me, and called my mom. mom was there in like ten min and she said she'd had enough, (my bf was long gone) mom grabbed me and spanked me right there, in front of my aunt. she was mad, which i know that she has a right to be, but then i tried to explain to her that we hadnt meant to go that far and she got REALLY mad when i said that. then mom looked at my aunt and asked my aunt what she wanted her to do to me since i did it in her house. my aunt told her that she wanted to deal with me...

well, my mom took me home last nite, and yelled at me the rest of the nite, but now she told me that i have to spend saturday with my aunt b/c she wants to 'talk' to me. my aunt is really mad at me and i dont want to go over there, but my mom said that i have to. and mom said that i would i am grounded for the rest of my life, I know that i messed up, but everytime that i try to tell her that i didnt mean to go that far with him, she gets madder. my aunt told me last nite that she never thought that she would be diappointed in me but she was rite then....what do i do?

Answer 1

The reasons that it makes your mother madder every time you tell her that you didn't mean for things to get this far are: a) You shouldn't have had him there in the first place and you knew it, and b) by letting things get farther than you meant for them to get, you displayed complete lack of responsibility and maturity, not to mention SELF respect.

Your aunt is mad at you because she considered you a friend, someone she enjoyed hanging around with and you betrayed and used her. You have made things very awkward between her and her sister, not to mention making your aunt feel like you only wanted to hang out with her so you could mess around with your boyfriend.

Your aunt has every right to tell you exactly how you made her feel, and you had better be respectful and tell her just how sorry you are. You messed up big, and have to be woman enough to look her in the face and own up to your mistakes.

By the way, if you don't feel woman enough to deal with the consequences of sex, you shouldn't be having it.

Answer 2

Look things went too far, okay, so life goes on, it was just a night with the BF that got out of hand....I think you need to apologize but you are the kiddo and your aunt shouldn't have left you alone, she should have taken you back home and then picked you back up when she was off....

your BF should get yelled at, not just you...but obviously this is a wake up call that you need to go get on birth control because I am sure it will go to far again....

next time just be honest.....

your mom and your aunt were young once too they need to remember that...and I was a good girl....I slapped MOST boys, but I sometimes let some get a bit too frisky...but I never went all the way.....

it is hard just learn from it that is all.....

Answer 3

Hi. I did the same thing once. My mom and aunt was really mad. I just tried to explain it to them and they just got madder. My aunt was the one that talked to me the most. After she got done talking we started getting along better. Stuff happens and most parents after a while of being mad know that. I would go and listen to what your aunt has to say. You did do it and have to face it. Maybe she won't be that mad. Good Luck. It will be ok. Don't stress about it.

Answer 4

honey if ur old enough and disrespectful enough to let things go too far in ur aunts house.... your gonna have to show that u can b responsible and deal with the fall out of what you,ve done...at least getting caught by ur aunt is ur only problem... std,s pregnancy etc... step up to the plate and accept ur punishment.. ps at the end of the day ur aunts ur aunt before shes ur friend.... as u said ur mums sister.... she did the right thing and is understandbly upset with u.. good luck. take care.

Answer 5

You have totally lost sight as to WHY you were in trouble...so what if you didnt mean to go that far YOU DID GO THAT FAR, the big point is..is that you had your boyfriend over at your aunts house WITHOUT HER THERE and WITHOUT HER PERMISSION...that was VERY disrespectful. And you think it has to be mostly about how far you went with him? You REALLY need to be grounded to see at think about the whole incident..not just the "we didn't mean to go that far" part....you reap what you sow...

Answer 6

You admit that you were stupid for letting things go to far. Apologize to your aunt for taking having your bf over without permission, for taking advantage of her trust and faith in you. I think that you are getting off easy so far. I wouldn't be surprised if your aunt did not want to be responsible for you again.

Answer 7

You are going to have to go deal with your aunt.The sooner you talk it over with her,the sooner this will all be over.You are going to have to work very hard to regain trust,but you will.They are only upset because they love you and they don't want to see you make a big mistake that you can't take back.If they didn't care about you they wouldn't make such a big deal about it.Good luck.

Answer 8

First off...how old are you?

Second...you had no right to invite your boyfriend over to a house that you don't live in or own if you didn't ask permission.

Third...depending on your age (under 17), you shouldn't be alone in a house with your bf and messing around.

Answer 9

Well I don't know how far you went, but they are just trying to protect you. STDs Pregnancy Be careful

Answer 10

why would u do something like that to your aunt!! that very disrespectful!! i am glad that you mom and aunt is mad at u!!