Im both dating and friends with a guy who on both of our dates has talked about being mean.
On our first date he told me he could be mean.
I didnt ask what he meant. Just thought it was weird joke.
Then on our second date he looked at me very seriously and told me he was thinking/toying with the idea of being MEAN to people. He seemed kind of 'excited' by sharing his idea.
What the hell does he intend to do ?
he has been hurt by other girls in the past.
does that mean he is trying to tell me he might hurt me too ?
be a temporary phase ?Could this just
Hes is 34 yrs old btw.
2007-11-16 12:56:40 · 30 answers · asked by Leea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, my goodness! Warning bells are going off in my head!!
If I were in your shoes, I'd find a way out and disappear from him as quickly as I could. The more you can cover your tracks so he can't find you, the better, too.
To be quite frank, I'm scared for you! He sounds like a sick person and yes, I can't help but have the feeling it was a thinly diguised threat toward you. I'm left to wonder ... if he's had problems with ladies leaving him before, could it be he's trying to keep you through fear ... as in, if you try to leave, your in for it? What 'it' is could be anybody's guess.
If you have someone you can talk to in person about this guy and what he's saying, do so! Perhaps you have family, or good friends you can call on if you need help. Do whatever it takes to guard against this person. At his age, it's not a phase ... it's the real deal.
Please be careful!
Prayers be with you!
2007-11-16 13:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN LIKE THE WIND FROM THIS ONE!!!
He is seriously unstable and could do you harm. He is trying to see how much you will put up with at this point and it will not get any better. He is not worth the friendship or the relationship. He should have grown out of this stage in his teens. He's 34 and will not change now. Get out of this on both the friendship and relationship as soon as possible...before the one he gets mean with is you.
2007-11-16 13:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was reading that I was thinking you were talking about my ex. Man, he told me he was "mean" and he wasn't kidding either. "Mean" is just a nice way of saying "total f*cking a*shole".
He's not toying with the idea either is my guess. Sounds like he's just trying to get how you feel about total d*cks. I have no doubt people have called him "mean" to his face already.
Just out of curiosity I'd have to ask him to be more specific about his definition of mean was. But he's already baited you and WANTS you to ask, why else would he throw that out there?? So, I dunno. It would be a toss up then for me.
He wants you to ask, hence the "baiting" you. So if you can resist asking him what he means then do it for as long as you can. Just ignore him and see how he reacts. Interesting behavior. Hmmmmmmmmmmm
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2007-11-16 13:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Shel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is very creepy. This might be overreacting, but that sounds like someone who might eventually commit really serious offenses if he's not stopped. He might not, but he might. I think if I were you and you were seriously worried, i would stop seeing him and depending on whaty my gut was telling me, I might even call the non-emergency line and let the police know that he didn't say anything specific but that you are concerned he might try and hurt someone. Again, that might be extreme, but that's what instinct is for.
2007-11-16 13:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by it's me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh that's creepy. I don't enjoy being around people that like to f*** around with other people's minds. And he's 34 on top of it?! Jeez I can't imagine how immature he was when he was younger.
2007-11-16 12:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by apocalypso 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, he probably means he is tired of being pushed around. He is probably a nice guy, but being nice doesn't get him anywhere so he is going to try being mean. Just ask him to explain. If he is your friend, he will tell you.
2007-11-16 13:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Joel J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Run, don't walk, AWAY from this creep.
Change your phone numbers, move to another city, change your name, go into a Witness Protection program, whatever it takes but get as far away from him as you can.
Ever visit Australia?
2007-11-16 13:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by Arsan Lupin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok two words......STAY AWAY!dont ask questions he might be a dangrous person 4 all u kno...i just know i cant wanna hang out wit sum1 who thinks that type of stuff are funny at all.if his 34 thats even worse!
2007-11-16 12:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by I need some answers :! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
34? That's insane. Get away from this guy fast. He has issues that need treatment. You should tell someone about this guy. He's crazy......
2007-11-16 12:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Kym♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is no phase; he's an adult and a very immature and distrubed one - I'd run like crazy if I were you.
2007-11-16 12:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋