im 13 almost 14 and i know you might say im too young for a boyfriend but i like my bf and we have been going out for a week now (haha) days i like him but he loves me ...today he just said i love you .....first i dont know how to tell him to slow it down...and second i dont know whether i should end it...and third im not ready for something serious! im young and i do like 2 other guys but im seriously not sure at all...keep in mind i do like him like on a scale of 1 to 10 like a 6 or 7 ....but i dont know....help!!! im seriously freaking out though i probABLY shouldnt
2007-11-16 12:43:45 · 6 answers · asked by softball_218 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awww, honey, there is nothing wrong with that word. He is learning too and likely just wants you to know that he cares a lot for you. I know that in your case it is likely still only attraction, but I suspect he just thinks it's something he should say. Kind of like practice for later.
But you are a very wise sounding young woman for your age and seem to know that there is more. And you are fine to like several and don't feel pressured to choose just one now. Your age is for meeting all kinds of boys, having fun and not getting worried over things too much.
If you don't feel that you want to be with him in an exclusive way, or if his "I love you" bothers you, just tell him you still like him, want to see and spend time with him but that you don't feel ready to be too serious.
It's great practice for later and you'll be way ahead if you learn how to say these things now as you are likely to have several serious relationships before finally choosing one.
It'll be OK, sweetheart, I promise. Do what feels right and enjoy yourself. Being young will go by so fast, so don't waste it with worry.
2007-11-16 12:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right---you are too young and you should ask him (as well as yourself) to slow down.First of all, you are not ready for anything serious, you can have a lot of friends like you already know and want to do, he can be your friend also but nothing more. At almost 14 years old, you are not yet capable of dealing with the physical, emotional, psychological, and mental demands of a romantic entanglement.Focus on your other interests, school, goals, family, and friends. At the right time, and when the right guy comes along, you'll be glad you waited.I wish you all the best for your very bright future.
2007-11-16 21:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him as a friend.
You are way too young to be stressed out over having a boyfriend and when you should or should not say I love you.
2007-11-16 21:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had boyfrineds at 13. But they were just that, boy friends. You sound like you have your head on straight realizing at your age it's too soon to say I love you and he's too serious. But look at it like this. You know you're too young and I'm sure he does too. He just really likes you and is confusing that with love. Tell him exactly what you just told us.
2007-11-16 20:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by lil_hem_n_va 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you like him a lot but aren't ready for a serious relationship.
2007-11-16 20:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG...I would run away from someone who said that seriously and so soon.
And I'm almost ten years older than you!
2007-11-16 20:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by munchkin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋